“I Don’t Want This Woman at My Fiancé’s Birthday Party!”

My fiancé and my social circle is very close, hosting potlucks every weekend and celebrating most parties at a house that we call “S House,” for anonymity’s sake. Well, a couple in our group — Julie and Kent —recently went through a very nasty breakup. Julie has always been very demeaning of Kent, treating him like a dog, using him for what little money he has, cheating on him and the like. Everyone in our group has tried to sit down with Kent at one point to try to talk some sense into him – he deserves much better than Julie. Besides all that, Julie is morally corrupt (she’ll screw over or…

“I Have Feelings for My Friend’s Crush”

Through one of my close friends I met this guy. We quickly became friends and now hang out with the same group of people. His sense of humor is the same as mine and we also see eye-to-eye on many topics. He’s made it clear that he would be interested in a relationship and I think if we started dating, we would work well together. There’s just one thing stopping me, and that is the friend who introduced us. Not that long ago she mentioned that she’s interested in him and has been for a few years. When I think of the two of them together, I do think they would be…

“He Dumped Me When His Mother Died”

I am a 22-year-old college student, who has been on-and-off with one of my best friends (he’s 27) for the past 3 years. We met four years ago while working together, and we became good friends relatively quickly. I was seeing someone at the time, and deep down I knew he had feelings for me, but we never addressed it. A year later, my then-boyfriend and I broke up because my grandfather had passed away and he chose to not be there for me. However, my best friend was there for me and he helped my family out. Shortly after, best friend and I started seeing one another. It was definitely a…

“When Should I Tell Dates About My Health?”

How does someone approach the subject of poor health when dating? I’m a 26 year-old male who has a couple heart problems. I feel fine and my cardiologist says that I have just as much of a chance to live as long and good quality of a life as anyone, the only difference being daily medication, checkups twice a year and a new pacemaker every few years. But, sometimes people hear the words “pacemaker,” know that I take heart medication and or see that I take longer to recover from a workout at the gym and think I’m damage goods or something. I might be exaggerating a bit, but I do know…

“Being a Bridesmaid is Breaking My Budget!”

A friend of mine from high school asked me in December to be one of her bridesmaids in her July wedding. I was surprised she asked me, particularly because while we were close in our teens, she was usually too busy with her now-fiancé to catch up or respond to me when I was visiting our hometown. We talk occasionally and I know she does not have many female friends and considering how close we once were, I said yes. Well, fast forward to today and I really regret saying yes. Her older sister is the Matron of Honor and is a nightmare. The sister refuses to plan anything the way the…

“Should I Have an Intervention for My Friend’s Clingy Relationship?”

I’ve lived with the same four roommates for a little over a year, and since February, one of them — Rick — has been in a very clingy relationship. I feel guilty for meddling in Rick’s relationship, but I’m genuinely worried about both him and his girlfriend. When Rick and Lucy started dating, they would retreat to his room together for hours on end, never talking to anyone else or going out with friends. Rick even stopped showing up to his fraternity’s social events. However, Rick was the happiest I, or any of our other roommates, had seen him in a while, so we didn’t think too much of it. We all…

“How Do I Get My Ex To Stay Away From Me?”

My ex-boyfriend and I are supposed to be good friends. We have helped each other through hard times, and I even let him rent a room in my home until he could get on his feet. He recently moved out at my request as he seemingly never planned on leaving and I could not get on with my life. Regardless, we have remained good friends and he still comes over sometimes and helps me with my property, etc. He claims that I am the best friend he has ever had and never wants to lose that relationship. My neighbors across the street are also friendly with both of us and have lots…

“My Boyfriend Thinks I’m Too Opinionated”

I’ve been seeing my guy, “Joe,” for four months, and it’s been great! But last night on the phone, he started talking about a TV personality who I don’t like, and I said “He’s such a fraud and an asshole.” Immediately, Joe goes silent (his reaction when I say something he doesn’t like, I’m noticing) and I asked what the problem was. He said I invalidated his opinion with mine, and that I do it all the time, and it’s getting to the point where he doesn’t know if he can “do this” anymore because I talk to people in such a way that makes them not want to talk to me….

“I Want Nothing To Do With My Mother-in-Law”

I am a woman in my late 20s and I, like so many others, am having a MIL problem that is now causing tension in my relationship. “Jane” is overall a nice person but has been un/under-employed for most of the five years that my fiancé and I have been together. She has bounced around from family member to family member in turns, living with them for a short while — including us on several occasions. For the most part, I’ve had no problem with her staying with us as we have always gotten along well and even though she wasn’t paying us rent, she helped out by cleaning and buying groceries…

Your Turn: “How Long Should I Wait For a Proposal”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter — with a question that’s arguably the most common one I’m asked — without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years now. I’m 25 and he’s 34. We started dating when I was 18. I cheated on him, he wanted to work it out and I said no because I was young, wanted to experience life and wasn’t sure I could be faithful. He was hurt, of course, but I felt it was better to be honest than stay together and wind up cheating…

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