“He Never Initiates Sex Anymore!”

My fiancé and I have been together for one year. We live in different states and see each other an average of two weekends out of the month. In the beginning the sex was good and frequent with him initiating it and putting in most of the effort to please me. In more recent months the sex has begun to slow down and now it is completely non-existent. Meanwhile, our relationship remains strong, loving and affectionate (besides sex) and I am as sure as one can be that he is not cheating on me. Whenever I bring up the lack of sex to him he says that the stress of being unemployed…

“I Can’t Get Along with My Mother”

My mother and I do not get along. She left when I was 3-years-old to pursue a career and her own life while I stayed behind with my grandparents. I would go visit her during the summer months as a child, but most of my memories involve being left alone while she went out, or being put on various diets and exercise regimens. I’m a 20 year-old college student now and as I’ve gotten older, the nit-picking at my body has morphed into other criticisms. She always believes I’m lying or hiding something when I’m telling the truth; if I become too sensitive on a given topic, she calls me a “bitch.”…

“Am I Crazy to Wait for My Deployed Boyfriend?”

My boyfriend and I met two and a half years ago and began dating a few months later (he’s 40, I’m 25). He enlisted in the Army the month that we met with a 1-year contract. He went away for some training that June but apart from that we had a wonderful summer doing everything together. We began talking marriage that October. The day after we talked about marriage he got orders to leave in two weeks for some specialized training in Texas. I was excited for him and told him that I’d wait the 3-4 months and then we could start talking more seriously about when we’d like to plan for…

“He’s Still not Ready for Marriage. Should I MOA?”

I’m 30 and I started dating my 36-year-old boyfriend four years ago. We lived together for a year but I eventually moved out because I decided I didn’t want to cohabitate before being fully committed to someone. So we stayed together, but I got my own apartment. For the first few years of the relationship we never talked about getting married — neither of us is eager to have children and it didn’t seem important at the time. But after about three years I brought it up and it led to some very tense, awkward conversations where I got the impression he hadn’t thought about it at all. The discussions went nowhere,…

“Our Roommate Doesn’t Pay Her Rent”

Recently, I moved, at least semi-permanently, into my boyfriend’s house with him and his roommates. Soon after, one of the roommates’ new girlfriend also moved in. At first, neither of us was paying rent because we were not taking up any extra rooms but eventually another roommate told us we both needed to start chipping and and, of course, I agreed. The other girlfriend and I were given a grace period of a month to get our finances in order and that month is now over. I moved some things around and am now able to pay my rent, in full, for the foreseeable future. However, the other girlfriend has made no…

“He Beat Me Up, But I Still Agreed to Marry Him”

I am 25 years old and I have been with my fiancé for only six months. We immediately moved in with each other when we met as he was needing a surety (I know he sounds great already, doesn’t he?). He was caught with some bad people and he honestly was not really involved in what he was charged with (eventually the charges were dropped). He has a bad past but has his stuff together now, working a good job and we have a nice house we are renting. I had never lived with a guy ever so it was a new experience. In the beginning it was rocky; I think he…

“My Boyfriend’s Ex Is Pregnant With His Baby!”

I started seeing this guy about two months ago. We met on an online dating site and the first time we met in person was like magic. We have a really deep connection and care a lot about each other. Just a couple days ago, he sent me a text saying his day just got very weird. I asked him why and he responds with: “We may need to talk.” He tells me the short version: that his ex is pregnant and has been waiting to tell him for the last three months (they broke up about three months ago). I’m studying counseling in school, so I know how to handle the…

“I’m Disgusted by My Boyfriend’s Bisexuality”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I’m in my early 20s and met my boyfriend of three months on an online dating service. We fell in love within the first two weeks of our relationship and have recently started to discuss our respective pasts. Before we met in person, my boyfriend told me he believed he…

Your Turn: “My Co-Workers Are Jealous of my Promotion”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I work at a small grocery store in my hometown. I’ve worked there for a little over two years and I enjoy it for the most part. I started there when I was a junior in high school, and it allowed me to become very close to a girl I only vaguely knew before. We were practically inseparable and our manager would schedule us at the same because many of the customers said we were like a free comedy show. Last July, I decided to stay…

“My Boyfriend Has Lost all Ambition”

My boyfriend and I met a little over five years ago and a lot of really tough things has happened since then. When we were first dating he was an ambitious up-and-coming artist who was in college, owned a home, worked several jobs, and had a solid a 5-year plan. This was very important to me because I wanted someone who was as ambitious as I was with the same values and sense of humor, and in Brad I thought I had found that. Fast forward a year and a half, when Brad received some very bad news. His house had burned down while he was away. I offered him a place…

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