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In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me (it’s a question I’ve tried many times to answer, so now it’s your turn!): I’ve been in a relationship for over seven years and I’m afraid it isn’t “going anywhere.” Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend. He makes me laugh, we enjoy many of the same things, he is attractive and really smart. We have similar values and we have fun together. All in all, it is the best relationship I have ever had or could hope for except: I want to spend…

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about three months now and we recently met each other’s families. I really like his brothers, but his father has been getting on my nerves. I was offended once when he started talking about how firefighters are brainwashed to take an ax to the door every time they get a call, even if it’s not necessary. I don’t think he realized that both my grandfathers were firefighters and my father currently is a lieutenant in the fire department. I tried to not get offended by his statements, but we were in the car for a long drive, and I really didn’t want to sit there and…

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and although we’ve never had sex anywhere but at home, my boyfriend keeps condoms in his car, which I’ve recently expressed my discomfort over. He told me that he has always kept condoms in his car (even before me) and it is for no particular reason. However, he promised to remove them since it made me uncomfortable. Four weeks later, I found out he never removed them but rather put them in different locations in the car to throw me off. Every time we are about to have sex, he has to stop and get a condom out of his car,…

Last week, I shared with you my best breakup lesson ever and invited you to share your own in the comments or over email. You all had some great ones, and in the interest of helping other avoid broken hearts in the future, I’ve culled some of the best ones here in one easy-to-read list, after the jump. Feel free to print it out and keep it somewhere safe for the next time you need a reminder.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and things are going great. We get along really well, have the same values, and plan to get married some time in the future. The problem is, he has an ex girlfriend (of 4 years) who still maintains a relationship with his family, specifically his younger sister. My boyfriend doesn’t speak to this girl anymore as she treated him badly during their relationship. In the past, if we saw her in social settings, she was very rude to us both, but we haven’t seen her in a year and a half as we don’t live in the same town (my boyfriend’s home…

I have been involved with a guy for about a year and a half now and we’ve always had a pretty complicated relationship. We met a couple summers ago when I came home from college and had a casual fling until I went back to school. We continued to hook up over the next year whenever I came home for holidays, etc. but we didn’t really keep in touch otherwise and were by no means committed. Then when I graduated, I moved back home and we became official for about three months. During that time, I realized that he was a pretty serious alcoholic and ended the relationship as a result. Then…