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I got married exactly one year ago to my now-husband. We decided to get hitched at City Hall and because he’s foreign, the whole thing was organized very quickly, with both our families flying to the west coast on a week’s notice, from different countries. We sent out a last minute email to our very large group of good friends saying that we were getting hitched at the courthouse but we were having a reception that night. The whole thing was very informal (just like we wanted it) and all our friends came and we all had a great time. The problem is, only two of our friends got us wedding gifts….

After two bad break-ups and a year off from relationships, I finally decided to give it a try with this new guy, David. He’d never had a girlfriend before, and said he said he didn’t want to just hook up, but wanted a relationship, which was great news for me, as I felt like I’d finally met someone I was willing to put my heart on the line for. Because he holds an executive position in our student government and is taking four classes, we didn’t get to see much of each other, but I was fine with that. Then, after not quite a month, he blindsided me with a break up….

I have been with my boyfriend for about six years. We have a great relationship and he has been a better father to my child than her own father has been. We get along great, he’s an amazing cook and absolutely rocks my body in bed! I never thought I ever wanted to get married but we’ve actually been discussing it here and there and it feels right! There is one little problem though: I’m bisexual and don’t think I can be satisfied without having a woman in my life. For many years, I even thought I might have been a lesbian, and I’d be in a relationship with a woman now…

My boyfriend of a year and a half recently ended our relationship (via Facebook chat!), citing that there was too much stress in his life to have a relationship. There were lots of “I still love you” from both sides and “maybe the breakup will end up being a mistake” and a bunch of other sappy cop-out lines from him to try and protect my poor, delicate feelings. It has now become clear from talking to his friends, that he was bored and unhappy for quite some time before he ended it. Throughout the relationship, he was grumpy, negative, bitter, refused to hang out with my friends, destroyed my self-esteem, and now…

I am a single Pakistani-American Muslim girl, born and raised in the U.S., and I just turned twenty. I’m very secular, but I believe in God and the various tenets of Islam. (I’m comparable to Christians who only go to church on Easter and Christmas.) My immediate family is very much like me, but the rest of our family, who we are very close with, take religion quite seriously. I’m expected to marry a Muslim man someday, which I have absolutely no problem with; I do want my eventual children raised under this faith. Here’s my problem: I really, really want to have sex now. I’m twenty, and I’m still a virgin….

My boyfriend’s birthday is coming up and I’m planning on throwing him a nice dinner at an upscale steakhouse in Beverly Hills. I have already gotten confirmations from 18 of his/our closest friends and family on Facebook. Today when I called the steakhouse to make reservations, the banquet coordinator informed me that for a party that large I must fill out a contract with my credit card info agreeing that we will spend a minimum of $2000 on food and beverages excluding tax, gratuity (17%) and service charge (4%) and that there will be a $500 cancellation fee. While I can understand why a restaurant would implement a cancellation fee, a contract…

Last August, a friend of mine visited from out of the country. Part of his stated mission for visiting the US was to “find a wife” so he could immigrate to the US. Toward the end of his stay, I made a mistake I’ll probably regret forever: my husband and I introduced him to my single, lonely best friend with the half-serious pretext that he could pay her for marriage (she is a non-working college student so we figured she could use the money, and she also desperately wants to leave her parents’ house.) Needless to say, two days after they first met they were “in love” and had decided to get…

I recently got engaged to a wonderful man. Monday evening something was mentioned to us about his cousin’s baby shower taking place this Sunday. I was not invited and had no idea it was going on. My fiancé mentioned this to his mother, and she mentioned it to her sister (the mother of the expecting woman and the hostess), and asked why I was not invited. The hostess called me yesterday to apologize and explain she did not invite me because she doesn’t know me very well, and didn’t want me to feel obligated to come. She then insisted several times I come to the party, and left me stammering. She hung…

I’ve been talking to a guy for about four months over the internet, Skype, and phone. We met once when we were both in relationships (he was one of my ex’s friends) and I instantly liked him as a person, and he later admitted he felt the same, but we never really talked much until we were both single. We have amazing chemistry from what I can tell, and are planning to meet up this summer. He’s currently living in another country, but will be moving back to the states in a month or two. We’ve talked about the possibility of being in a relationship if all goes well when we spend…

I’m a 22 year old full time student and full time worker. I work hard to pay my way through school and also manage to sustain my self. I live at home though, given that my very conservative Christian parents expect me to live with them until I get married. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and half now and he recently told me that he wants to go to Las Vegas for his birthday with our group of friends and of course take me along. I’ve never asked to go on a trip with a boy before and the minute I asked I got a definite no. I asked…