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I’m a non-Christian and I broke up with my Christian boyfriend a few months ago. We dated for about six months. When we started out, all signs pointed to his being the kind of Christian who believes in God and Jesus but isn’t super devout in daily life. I’ve never seen him say grace before a meal, he wasn’t going to church regularly when we began dating, and he didn’t show any qualms about having premarital sex. That said, his dad was a pastor for a few years after retirement (he’s not a pastor anymore), and my ex started going to a church regularly a few months after we started dating. Over…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I’m a mom of two young kids (my son will be 3 in August and my daughter turned 1 two weeks ago). Six months ago my husband of four years (together nine years total) told me he wanted “out.” He said he tried marriage, but it wasn’t working out for…

I’m a gay man who’s been in a relationship with my boyfriend, “Tom” for five months. Recently I saw a text pop up on Tom’s iPad from a guy. I asked him who this guy was, and he said it was someone he had had a crush on for one and a half years. They have had sex, but he said they haven’t been communicating that much lately. He also said he told this guy about us. I didn’t believe him and snooped a bit until, two weeks ago, I saw on my Tom’s iPad texts and sexts he sent to this guy over the last five months. Also, it was clear…

I’m 29 and my boyfriend, “Don,” is 39, and I moved in with him two years ago after we’d been dating for a little under a year. Since then, we’ve been through some serious shit and have fought hard to stay together. He has three boys (they are 11, 13 and 15) and I have no children. One of the biggest problems arises in his ability to allow me to be a part of the home. Our walls look like an elementary school threw up nine years of homework on the walls. Every surface is covered (COVERED) in the kids’ art and awards. There’s unframed, ripped, crumpled paper pinned to every wall,…

I was newly separated from my children’s father when he got diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. We are not legally married but were together 15 years. Before the diagnosis, he had no problem going on with his life after we broke up. We are very different people, but he was like a best friend because of the many years spent together — just sort of a best friend you don’t wanna hang out with all the time because you don’t really get along. I didn’t want my kids to grow up in a big city, so I moved our of state with them. My ex didn’t want to move, but he was…

I’ve met this wonderful woman online. We have talked for several months now, feeling the waters. I had been wanting to make it official, until she dropped the fact she is bisexual. I was quite upset with her because she told me right in the middle of making things work. It felt like a bomb, with a lot of information to process and with numerous emotions, too. I have been honest with her since the beginning — that I date straight women, and I felt lied to when her online profile stated she was straight. I’m struggling with accepting her bisexuality. She wants to be monogamous, which is fantastic. She says she…

My husband and I have a problem with communication – specifically his memory – and it’s really starting to affect our relationship. I will ask him a favor or request something of him (example: I asked him recently if we could have a “family day” with the kids soon). I give him all the details he may need, like the day, the time…whatever needs to be said, and he’ll think it over and will agree to help. But then when the time comes, he backs out of whatever it is I asked for his help with, claiming I never asked him to help or claiming I did ask but wasn’t specific enough…

I’m a woman in my early thirties, married and gainfully employed with no kids. From the outside, I mostly seem to have it together — I’m a valued employee at my 9-5 job, was an excellent student in college/grad school, and manage to hold down a rigorous work-out schedule while working on a novel in my free time — but I actually feel like I’m a hot mess. For example, I’m not very punctual (okay, I admit I’m always running 5-10 minutes late for everything). I have dented two cars, have lost my car keys, and, as of last year, have broken my cell phone. I feel like I’m always losing or forgetting…