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I met my ex-boyfriend two months after his mother was tragically killed and one month after he broke up with his girlfriend of three years. He didn’t tell me about either of these until two months into the relationship. We had an awesome honeymoon stage in the relationship and I was sure he was very much into me. I loved him completely and I felt the same from him. Then, six to seven months into the relationship, we started to have arguments and fights. We would go into apathy mood and I couldn’t understand why he started acting out. He would compare me to his sisters and cousins, and I started to…

My boyfriend of nine months, Mark (26), has a sister, “Rachel” (30), and one evening while we were all at at their parents’ place she went on and on and on about how sexy she thinks her brother is, which was weird. We — my boyfriend, his sister, her boyfriend of four years, and I — left the parents’ place and went to the grandmother’s place, and, while we were there, I noticed Mark rubbing Rachel’s thigh for a bit and then pull her legs onto his lap, slide his hand up her pant leg, and rub her calf. I was TOTALLY freaked out. I’ve seen him slap her butt a few…

I’m the middle sister between two brothers whom I love dearly and with whom I have complicated but cherished relationships. Last year, our father died tragically and unexpectedly. My mother, brothers, husband and I are still grappling with the pain and shock of his death and have been trying as hard as we can to rebuild our family unit around his absence. My older brother, “John,” is what you might call a late bloomer when it comes to relationships, career path, and adult independence — he has just begun to come into his own as he approaches his thirtieth year, and, as a result, I tend to feel (and be treated) like…

I have been dating a man, “Henry,” who had a relationship over seven years ago with a woman who had three children — two sons and a daughter. They dated for eight years, so he raised the children along with his own two sons for the eight-year period they were together. Once they broke up, the mother would not let him see the children, so he was out of touch with them for seven years. “My Boyfriend Has Remained Close to His Ex’s Daughter” About the time we started dating (seven months ago), he said that his ex-fiance’s daughter, Loretta, had contacted him. Since then, she’s texted him prom pictures and has…

My boyfriend (37) and I (30) have been seeing each other for a year. We both own condos in the suburbs, fifty miles away from each other. We started discussing moving in together about five months ago as I am tired of the distance between us and only seeing each other on the weekends. I work at a university in the city, fifteen miles away from my home. I also have one semester of grad school left at my university, and my tuition is free since I work there. He is self-employed, working from home, and makes three times my salary. His sister is moving back to this state this week and…

“Fiona” and I have been friends since freshman year of college, and we have been close for more than a decade. About a year ago, Fiona got married and gave birth to a lovely baby girl, whom I adore. I am thrilled for her new life. However, as she transitions into a new mom, I’ve realized that our friendship has gone downhill. After Fiona became pregnant, she quit her job and is now a stay-at-home mom. We used to hang out every couple of months before her pregnancy. Now that she is a mom, we have seen each other four or five times over the past year. I adore her daughter; however,…

I’m a recent college graduate who, like the vast majority of my generation, has found herself living at home while trying to save up enough to move out. I live in a large house with my sister, her two young children, and my aging parents. I have three other siblings older than I am. My two brothers live in the area and my oldest sister lives out of state. My problem is the somewhat “uneven” distribution of household chores. I find myself spending an upwards of four or more hours a day before and after work cleaning up after my sister’s children, taking care of her dogs, and trying to get as…

I am a gay Irish man and have been dating my Mexican boyfriend for the last five months. He is twentyyears my junior at 31 and it is going really really well — the age difference isn’t a problem, the intimacy is perfect, and we are so comfortable in each other’s company. He even told me recently that he is falling in love with me. But a couple of days ago I went to the cinema with him and his female best friend. He was sitting in the middle seat with her sitting to the left and me to the right. During the film he started rubbing my knee which he usually…