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My daughter, who is 18 and still in high school, has had the same boyfriend for about two years now. Recently it has come to the family’s attention that he smokes weed and has contacted other girls asking them to stay the night with him. I sat my daughter down the other night and told her everything. Of course, she cried and was very upset. I never told her to break things off with him. I told her to pray about it and think about it and that she would know the right thing to do. The next morning she went to see him to end things. She then proceeded to come…

I used to be a school teacher in London. I did it for almost two decades in some of the toughest areas of the city. It was challenging and fulfilling work, but I was barely able to make ends meet. Every month I struggled to pay the mortgage and the bills and put food on the table. I married another teacher at the age of 36 and had two wonderful children, but we eventually and tragically fell out of love with each other. Circumstances being what they are, we still live together as a family, but my husband and I have gone our separate ways emotionally. It was during my second pregnancy…

I was introduced to a wonderful man, “Derek,” by our 23-year-old daughters after both of our recent divorces. Everything started out great, and then all of a sudden his daughter decided that she didn’t like me. She told Derek’s mother horrible lies about me before I had a chance to meet her, and now my reputation has been ruined by these lies. “My Boyfriend Treats His Daughter Like SHE is His Girlfriend” Derek and I are both very much in love with each other and felt we had everyone’s blessings, so we probably moved the relationship forward a little faster than we would have otherwise done. I fear that Derek’s daughter became…

Last year my husband mentioned that his mom would be having a party for his dad who is turning 60 in May. We live on the east coast and they live in the midwest, where my husband is from, a few hours from Chicago, where I’m from. We went back to Chicago this past November and saw his family for Thanksgiving, and I’ve had conversations with his mom and sister since and they’ve never brought up this party. Don’t you think it’s weird they have not mentioned it? I talked to my MIL last month when she called for my birthday, but she never said anything…. So my husband has just told…

I’m an early 30s woman, married almost three years to a man whom I’ve been with for six. I’ve always identified as straight-ish; although I’ve had crushes on women for my whole life (a couple times a year since middle school), I’ve never done more than kiss a woman — and, honestly, it never really occurred to me that those crushes meant anything. Being with a man has fit the script I wanted for my life, and it seemed to work, so I went with it. My husband is a wonderful man, but our relationship is much more one of compatibility, comfort, making sense life-wise than some deeply passionate romance. Neither of…

The following letter appeared in a recent Dear Abby column and was sent to me by a DW reader who was outraged by the advice given. I read the advice and felt torn, which you can read about below, after the jump. I am a junior in high school. Last year, a guy I have known for two years began showing a sexual interest in me. I rejected his advances. Last week, he began expressing his interest again, letting me know he wanted to have sex. He invited me to study — only study — but said we “might” make out. I was a virgin and had never even kissed anyone before….

My now-husband and I started dating in February 2014. We got married in August 2015, we opened a business in January of this year, and now the business is going bankrupt (only my husband is filing). We’ve moved around a lot for work and we’ve always been stressed about money, which causes us to fight. About a month ago, my husband told me that he hasn’t been happy, that he no longer sees our future together, that we don’t have much in common, and that there’s nothing to save. He said that, although he loves me and I’m the love of his life, love isn’t enough to make a relationship last and…

Your recent topic of the day, on relationships and the strains on them, struck a chord. I’ve been with my husband for thirteen years now. He’s a funny, friendly, amiable guy, kind of like Marshall from “How I Met Your Mother” but a bit tougher (to give you a picture). We’ve bought a dream house with a dream yard that we both care a lot about. The other day a neighbor kid came up to me saying she was looking forward to playing on our trampoline. Turns out my husband has promised to build a trampoline in our yard and all the kids in our neighborhood are really excited. I had no…

My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. Things for the most part are pretty good except for one thing: He gets disgusted with me when I eat. At first I thought, “Oh, hell no are you going to comment on what I’m eating!” The first time this happened was only a few months into the relationship, and we got into a huge fight. Well, after this, we had the same fight over and over. So, I’d just wait for him to go to bed; I’m a late-night snacker anyway — always have been. But after I started doing this, he would do an inventory of the cupboards and the…

I’m a 27-year-old woman working two jobs to pay the bills. I was accepted into an incredibly competitive master’s program this year in a cutting-edge field. I was so proud to tell the rest of my family when I was accepted, but I only got mixed reactions, especially from my grandparents. I have been seeing, for three years, a wonderful man who proposed recently; we have been waiting to tell my family until I go see them in person this weekend. I also have two sisters, one 26 and one 20. My 26-year-old sister has graduated college, works for her university, and is talking engagement with a great guy she’s been seeing…