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I work in a small office of about fourteen people and for the most part everyone gets along quite well. “Rachel”, however, is causing everyone a lot of stress due to her overbearing communication style. First, Rachel is a loud talker. If she is speaking, especially in our small break room, no one else can. Literally, you can’t hear anyone else speak. She’s also a “one-upper.” Any problem you manage to bring up, she’s had it way worse. (Or, failing that, she has a distant relative who’s had it way worse.) She’s the type of person who asks about your weekend only because she wants to tell you about hers. Additionally, she…

“My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly five years and are in our late twenties. He recently told me that my past negativity made him fall out of love with me.”

I’m the youngest of three girls, and the oldest, who has three kids and recently moved back to our town, stresses me out. Now that she’s back, we have begun to see more of her daily struggles. Her two older children are in elementary school and her youngest is one. She gets so frustrated with them and doesn’t seem to enjoy motherhood, yet she works hard to make her life appear perfect on Facebook. She just texted us (my other sister, who also has kids, and me) that she is upset that the kids are out of school again for a snow day. Her husband works from home, and it appears that…

“I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I would like to outline the pros and cons of the relationship.”

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I’m 19 years old, and I have an 8-month-old daughter with a man who hasn’t been involved in my daughter’s life since he found out I was pregnant earlier last year. I’m currently in a relationship with another man, Josh, 21, and we’ve been dating for about five months. Josh was a friend whom I could go to when I needed someone to talk to while I was pregnant. He recently told me that he doesn’t want to raise someone else’s child, but he still wants us to be together and that it doesn’t mean that in the future he couldn’t change his mind. Although I haven’t given him any responsibility in…