“After Two Years, He Still Wasn’t Ready to Meet My Family”

I have been in a relationship with a man for almost two years. I’m 27 and he is 43. I’m divorced and he’s never been married before. We met an app. He’s a doctor. I’m a teacher. I asked him to meet my parents and he got mad and said that he didn’t like that I told them about him without telling him first. Then he said, “I’m way too far from any stage of meeting them anyway,” so I left him. I deleted him and I stopped talking to him, but I really love him. I want to know if what I did is right or wrong. Please advise me. Thank…

“How Can I Ask If I’m No Longer a Bridesmaid?”

I (think) I have been un-asked to be a bridesmaid, and I do not know whether or how to acknowledge this without upsetting the bride. I would be most grateful for your thoughts as I am stuck, and it’s a relationship that I want to handle well, and I want to not create any negative feelings for the bride on such an important day. I was asked by the bride to-be, an old friend that I am most fond of but admittedly not close to, or see a lot of, to be bridesmaid. I was very touched and excited. She mentioned it again a few times at different meet-ups in the following…

“My Wife Doesn’t Dress Up for Me”

I’ve been married to my wife for six years. Last year she had an affair and almost divorced me. Long story short, we worked out our issues, saved our marriage, and are pretty happy together now. I’m a romantic guy, and I always tell her how beautiful she is and how much I love her. I do a lot of housework, leave her special notes, cook for her, surprise her with flowers at work, etc. I’ve even asked her if she could attempt to be a little more romantic with me because it feels kind of flat in that department. She never does any of that stuff for me but tells me…

“He Bought Another Woman Socks”

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. We don’t have sex much because he is unhappy with the way he looks after putting weight on from quitting smoking. Even in the beginning of our relationship we never did it because of other circumstances. I think he looks amazing and I am still very turned on by him. Recently,…

I Have Cold Feet Because of His Debt

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I’m 39 and he is 44. His parents got a divorce when he was at the tender age of four (he was and is an only child). His mother was unhappy and not ready to be a mother, so she abandoned him for the next ten years and was not a part of his life. To this day she calls him weekly but he does not have any motherly connection with her, which he often feels guilty about. My boyfriend lived with his father and is not financially successful or stable. He studied law and has a JD, but…

In Other Words: “My Husband Put Our Pet Rat in the Freezer”

This “Dear Prudence” letter appeared earlier this month in Salon: I asked my husband to take our ailing rat to the veterinarian to be euthanized last Thursday. The rat was almost 2 years old and had a tumor on its mouth, but it was still a friendly animal that was so gentle. When I came home from work, he said he had “taken care of it.” It turns out he froze the rat in our deep freeze. I have been crying and grieving over this all weekend. We are barely speaking. He loves animals and didn’t think this would hurt the rat. He later apologized to me via text message. I am…

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