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Hi, everyone! This first week with Joanie has flown by, but we’re all starting to settle in and adjust to new family dynamics (Jackson, as to be expected, is having a bit of a rough time — more on that later). So far, Joanie is the easiest, sweetest baby ever (she rarely cries and literally sleeps about 22-23 hours a day, waking only to eat quickly — and more often than not, we have to wake her to eat — and have her diaper/cute outfit changed), and yet somehow my domestic duties seem to have doubled, if not tripled. (This is exacerbated by the timing of Jackson’s summer camp ending last week…

I’ve been with my boyfriend about eight years (we recently got married), and for that entire time I have been really close with his best friend. The three of us were inseparable. Recently though, while my husband and I were in the middle of a huge fight, I went to our best friend for support and comfort, and he told me that he loved me. He said that since he met me all those years ago, he loved me and believed he could treat me so much better than my husband does, but he never said anything because he wanted me to be happy. I don’t love him back, and, despite this…

My husband and I have been together for about four years now. We’ve known each other for almost nine years. We had a miscarriage over two years ago and it took us a while to finally get pregnant again. Our daughter is now four months old. Our family is literally perfect; we’ve had a few ups and downs, but we’re all happy. At least, that’s what I thought. I recently discovered that, while I would go out to appointments, my husband was having an affair with another woman. I found out by using his phone. She was saved under “Slut” and was blowing up his phone with text messages. I replied to…

I am 48-year-old woman, divorced 15 years ago and mother of 28-year-old son and 26-year-old daughter. Two and a half years ago my old school mate started talking to me on Facebook. He was married then, but he told me that for 17 years he had been unhappy in his marriage to a Russian girl, with whom he has two sons, now 10 and 12. From the first day we talked, we never stopped. After a month we started also going out every night. After two months he left his house and went to his parents’ place for three months, and then he came to my house and we have lived together…

I have been in a relationship with a lovely woman for five and a half years but we keep running into problems. I am willing to make the effort in order to work things out, but she is completely unwilling to change on her part. To give you an idea of what I mean: She didn’t like me when I got too drunk, so I stopped drinking more than 1 or 2 drinks per night out (which aren’t often); she didn’t like certain aspects of my behavior (little everyday stuff and bad habits, etc.) and I have either successfully remedied or am making big efforts to remedy those problems. In return, I…

No, it’s not Friday yet (sorry, it’s just Tuesday), but since I expect many of you will be enjoying a shortened week/long holiday weekend, I thought I’d post Shortcuts a few days early. Plus, I don’t have any letters at the moment I feel inspired to answer (so, if you have a burning/juicy relationship question, send it in!). For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.   Is it inappropriate for the sister of…

My best friend of 20+ years has also been my roommate for the last 2.5 years. Last summer we met a really hot guy at the pool in our apartment complex. Upon meeting him, my friend had a love-at-first-sight reaction while I was mildly attracted to him at best. Since she was really into him, she asked for his number. From the summer months into the fall she got closer to him by inviting him over to our place for dinner occasionally and hanging out with him outside our place or over at his. I started to get attracted to him and enjoy his company but maintained my distance out of respect…