Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Incredulous in Oregon”, who was thinking of buying a house and wondered why her boyfriend was so resistant to the idea of moving in with her as her tenant/paying her rent while still wanting to discuss future hypothetical baby names with her. She’s updated twice before, and now has a third and final update:

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “May Have Over-Reacted” who sent an angry email to a guy she’d been dating a couple months when she found out, after two weeks of no communication, that he was at the airport about to fly home for the holidays. She wrote: If I had not texted him, I would have never known he had left. I left him a long, angry email expressing my displeasure. He never replied and I have not heard from him since….

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Job Hunter,” a brand new college grad who felt pressured by a friend to take a job offer from the company she’d interned with. “She said that I should accept the offer and keep looking, which I find ethically immoral. In addition, she got very upset that I didn’t feel blessed for receiving the offer or was somehow spoiled for being able to be choosy in my decision. Is she jealous of my freedom of choice, or…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Birth Mother” who was struggling in her relationship and personal life after giving her baby up for adoption, saying that, because of her depression and stress, she and her boyfriend were at a “breaking point” and she wasn’t sure how to proceed. Keep reading to see how she’s doing now.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Repeatedly Rejected By Niece,” the woman who was debating whether to attend her niece’s wedding in another state despite their lack of a relationship. She updated us once before to let us know she remembered how her niece had created drama twenty years earlier, when she was 11, at the LW’s own wedding. “This event has nothing to do with my decision to go or not to her wedding, but I relate it just to show you…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Mother of the Bride, Daughter of the Uninvited” whose daughter was not inviting her grandmother, the LW’s mother, to her wedding. “My mother has insulted my daughter’s fiancé for his race as well as for his job,” she wrote. “But, my mother is the only family member not invited, and I don’t know what to do to make this situation better.” Keep reading to see how this situation has been further complicated.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Wants a Second” who desperately wanted a second baby while her husband did not. “He’s thought a lot about it and he really, really just wants one,” she wrote. “How do you think I should approach convincing him to have a second (if we get lucky again and can have one)? And failing that, how can I move on, not feel resentful, and just find happiness with only three of us?” Keep reading to see whether she…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Just Not Feeling It,” a woman who originally wrote in when, in her late-30s, she wasn’t feeling much passion for the guy she was seeing but worried that time was running out for her to find someone else. She updated us once before after she ended things with her boyfriend, saying: “I felt instant relief once it ended because it made me realize how miserable I was hanging out with someone I wasn’t into. Trying to talk…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Zero Love” who was annoyed that her childhood friend, whom she’d drifted apart from, was crashing her weekly tennis date with her new friends. “Playing tennis with my friends is my moment to work away the stress of the week, not to add more to the pile,” she wrote. “I want to have real conversations with my friends again and I don’t want Melissa to ruin this. I feel awful about feeling so hateful towards her, but…