Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “No Visiting Hours,” the woman who wasn’t allowed to visit her boyfriend after he was diagnosed with cancer and moved in with his mother an hour away. Keep reading to see how things are going now, several months later.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Totally Over It Bridesmaid” who was wondering whether there was a way she could get out being a bridesmaid for her frenemy who was no longer speaking to her after a series of tiffs and misunderstandings. Keep reading to see whether things have been resolved.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “One in a Long String of Girlfriends” who disapproved of her boyfriend’s ex-wife being invited to his family’s annual Christmas get-together, along with their grown daughter, and she worried about the lies he had told about his past relationships. “I feel very torn. On one hand, this man is very attentive, loving, and committed to me. We get along beautifully. On the other hand, I feel like I am one in a long, long, LONG string of…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Conflicted About Moving Away From My Son” who was conflicted about whether he should move away from his 15-year-old son, whom he shared joint custody of with his ex-wife (whom he said was “dead-set against his moving”), to move with his girlfriend of five years who got a job transfer to another state. Keeping reading to see what he decided.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Trying to Figure it All Out Ahead of Time” who had found the man she thought she might want to spend her life with but was worried that they were both ambivalent about wanting children one day. “What would happen if we get married and one of us decides we really do want children while the other is still on the fence or possibly has shifted more towards not wanting them?” Keep reading to see if they…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Repeatedly Rejected By Niece,” the woman who was debating whether to attend her niece’s wedding in another state despite their lack of a relationship. Keep reading to see what she decided.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from two previous letter writers. The first is “Hit On By Her Husband” whose close friend’s husband hit on her several years ago and she wondered if she should finally tell her friend what happened. “Her marriage is now so unhappy that she is seriously thinking of leaving him and I think she needs to have as much information as possible to make an informed decision. However, the incidents with the husband happened four years ago and I…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Her Older Man,” a 60-year-old man who had been dating a 34-year-old woman for nine years. The woman kept him a secret from her parents, whom she moved back in with in order to save money to buy her own place. She then broke up with the LW, saying she needed a younger man whom her parents would approve of and whom she could have a family with. “Since the split we’ve either texted, chatted, or emailed…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Not Really a Wicked Stepmother,” whose new husband’s 12-year-old daughter was acting out toward her. The girl’s mother was reinforcing the behavior and the father, the LW’s new husband, wasn’t doing much to help the situation, saying she should just ignore the stepdaughter’s behavior. I reached out to my friend, a clinical psychologist and single mom of a 12-year-old girl, for some help answering this question. Now, here’s an update from the LW:

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Mommy Issues’ Girlfriend,” the woman whose boyfriend of a few months had expressed fantasies of killing his mother and was regularly mean to her in public. “There is absolutely nothing else in his personality that would indicate this kind of severe hate and loathing,” she wrote. “I find it psychologically scary and creepy. I just don’t think normal people loathe their parents that much in absence of direct abuse or toxicity. Is this dump-worthy?” Keep reading to…