Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Second Guessing” who broke up with a boyfriend she wasn’t completely sure was “the one” when he told her he was going to turn down a great job in another city, near his family, to stay with her. She was worried maybe she broke up with him too soon and wondered whether she should give it another shot. She also wondered what “the basic ingredients in order to spend your life with someone” were. Keep reading to…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Trying to Move On” who was considering breaking up with her friend of ten years, Kate, after she continued to discuss the LW’s ex-boyfriend as well as cross other boundaries the LW wasn’t comfortable with. Keep reading to see if they patched things up or if their friendship ship has sailed.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Have Ring, Need More Compromise” who could not agree on where to live with his girlfriend of 4-1/2 years. She showed no interest in compromising and said that in a relationship a man should make all the sacrifices. He’d bought her an engagement ring and planned to propose, but he couldn’t afford to live where she lived and commute to work, and, without some compromises on her part, he believed the relationship may have run its course….

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Stuck in a Limbo Divorce,” the 40-something woman who was going through a divorce when she met a man online she really hit it off with. He told her he’d been through a divorce himself and that she needed 12 months to process everything before she’d be ready to date anyone seriously. Her divorce was dragging on, and she worried that he wouldn’t wait for her. And, oh yeah, on the side she had a hot karate…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Love Me, Love My Dog” whose new boyfriend was jealous of her dog. “He is often moody and will regularly apologize to me for being a ‘grumpy old man’ when he says things that hurt my feelings, often about my dog and how much he doesn’t like her, etc. I’ve been agonizing over how much longer to give this relationship or what the right course of action should be.” Keep reading to see whether the dog-hater is…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Wedding Gate” whose friend verbally attacked her at their mutual friend’s wedding. The friend sent an “I’m sorry, not really sorry” email afterward, to which the LW responded with an angry email explaining “the difference between honesty and being an asshole” and how her friend was “a judgmental, rude, meddling idiot.” The LW felt bad later, after she calmed down, and wondered how to smooth things over. Keep reading to see where things stand between them now.