Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Cross Cultural Divide” a woman from Belgium who originally wrote in when her Croatian fiancé wanted her to spend her entire two-week vacation with his family in Croatia. She complained that his friends and family don’t try to speak English with her even though they can and that she works hard and would like to spend part of her vacation relaxing by herself or with her own friends. She updated us once the vacation was over, and…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Non-Believer,” a woman who had just become exclusive with a practicing Christian who had expressed his desire that his future family — wife, included — attend church with him regularly. The LW, a non-Christian, is fine with her partner practicing whatever religion he wants, but she told her boyfriend she had no interest in ever attending church regularly. She wrote: “I don’t want to table the issue to just have it become a deal-breaker in several months…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Nonsmoker For Life” who started her current relationship as a smoker. She eventually quit, but her boyfriend did not and she wanted to know how to convince her boyfriend to quit without being a nag. Keep reading to see if she was successful.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Seeking an EXplanation” who’s ex-boyfriend had suddenly started contacting her all the time despite having a new girlfriend. Keep reading for an update … and a new question.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Scumbag?” who wrote in way back in February 2011 wondering if he was a scumbag for kissing a co-worker he was attracted to even though he’d been dating someone else for a couple of months. He decided that he’d break up with the woman he’d been seeing and see where things might go with the co-worker. Keep reading to see how that worked out for him.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Visa to Disaster” who felt responsible for her best friend being exploited for a marriage visa after she introduced her to a foreign friend visiting from abroad. “I feel responsible for putting her in this crappy situation, knowing she doesn’t have the self-love to recognize that she deserves a man who will marry her, no strings attached,” she wrote. Keep reading to see whether the friend went through with the marriage and how everyone is doing now.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Looking for the Real Deal” a woman who was falling for a man she men on Match who, after two marriages, had decided he was not interested in an exclusive, monogamous relationship again. She knew she didn’t want to date anyone else and was confused about whether such an arrangement would work for her in the long-run. Keep reading to see where things stand now.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Irrationally Jealous” who was jealous of the close friendships her boyfriend had with several women, whom he danced with, gave back rubs to, and occasionally held hands with. Some commenters said that her jealousy wasn’t irrational at all and that she should demand some boundaries be drawn. Keep reading to see if she did just that and how she’s doing now, over a year and a half later.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Worried Daughter” whose father was unemployed again and down on his luck only months after the LW and her husband spent 20 grand supporting him for a year. She was torn over whether to offer help again, even though her husband was staunchly opposed. “Or do I watch my marriage, business and the life I’ve worked hard to build for myself crumble because my father won’t/can’t support himself?” she asked. Keep reading to see what she decided…