Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Second to Church,” who felt second place (at best) to her boyfriend’s job at his church. “I understand that his job is his passion, but when I attempt to make plans he is always busy or can’t commit 100%. Just this week he cancelled on our plans because he has a new church group.” She said she saw him at most once a week and wondered how to broach the topic of needing more of…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Water Under the Bridge” who was being considered for a dream job on the other side of the country where she’d working under a man she had a brief affair with years ago. “One’s relationship with one’s boss is a critical one and I have this nagging suspicion that he stills hold a torch for me, crazy as it sounds. If I am offered this job, is it reasonable to think that he can put…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Missing my Salvation,” whose boyfriend of four years — a man she’d known her entire life who had never shown signs of being abusive — beat her one evening during a heated argument. “I want to be mad, but I just cannot connect that the man who hurt me with the man who has loved me all these years. […] I have never felt such emotional pain like this before. My daughter misses him so…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Bitter Heart” who was upset that her recent ex-boyfriend, a guy she’d been with for five years, seemed to be gloating over his new girlfriend on Facebook. After the jump, her response to the advice she got from the His Take guys.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “The Friendly Ex” whose ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend requested to meet her since the two had remained friendly and social since their breakup. “I completely understand that she must be curious about me, and doesn’t like the idea that her boyfriend is friends with an ex, but I am completely dreading meeting her (mostly due to the negative way she’s been portrayed by Mike)! But if I don’t agree to meet her, Mike won’t be “allowed”…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “No Forgiveness for Father,” whose father left the family when she was four and tried to reconnect with her and her siblings after the sudden death of her mother two years ago. “I was so angry,” she wrote, “20 years later and he only contacts us because our mother died and he’s sorry for ‘our’ loss. I didn’t want anything to do with him. It’s been two years since then and all my siblings have…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Rager’s Girlfriend” whose boyfriend flew into a rage after she brought him to a friend of a friend’s art exhibit he didn’t appreciate. “He swung open the doors at his place, with one almost hitting me in the face. He proceeded to take up most of the bed, not offer me clothes to sleep in and turned on the TV incredibly loud and passed out.” She wondered if she was right to feel concerned about…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Tired of Waiting,” whose boyfriend, after five years of dating and even buying a ring, announced he simply wasn’t ready to get engaged yet. “I want to give him more time,” she wrote, “but at this point, am I being foolish for thinking that he’ll ever change his mind? I thought that months of counseling (after over five years together!) would do it, but it feels like we’re back at square one.” After the jump…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Concerned Sister and Aunt,” whose sister, a single mother, was planning to elope with a former boyfriend she’d only been reunited with a few weeks. We’ve actually already been updated once before, but now we have a (not-so-happy) update to the update, after the jump.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Way Too Selective?” who was asked by a guy she went out with a few times (and slept with on their second date) whether she had slept with anyone else the night before she slept with him. “I laughed,” she wrote, “made some joke about the question, and said no. Then (and I should have seen this coming), he told me that he had hooked up with someone the same weekend we hooked up, and…