Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “No Forgiveness for Father,” whose father left the family when she was four and tried to reconnect with her and her siblings after the sudden death of her mother two years ago. “I was so angry,” she wrote, “20 years later and he only contacts us because our mother died and he’s sorry for ‘our’ loss. I didn’t want anything to do with him. It’s been two years since then and all my siblings have…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Rager’s Girlfriend” whose boyfriend flew into a rage after she brought him to a friend of a friend’s art exhibit he didn’t appreciate. “He swung open the doors at his place, with one almost hitting me in the face. He proceeded to take up most of the bed, not offer me clothes to sleep in and turned on the TV incredibly loud and passed out.” She wondered if she was right to feel concerned about…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Tired of Waiting,” whose boyfriend, after five years of dating and even buying a ring, announced he simply wasn’t ready to get engaged yet. “I want to give him more time,” she wrote, “but at this point, am I being foolish for thinking that he’ll ever change his mind? I thought that months of counseling (after over five years together!) would do it, but it feels like we’re back at square one.” After the jump…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Concerned Sister and Aunt,” whose sister, a single mother, was planning to elope with a former boyfriend she’d only been reunited with a few weeks. We’ve actually already been updated once before, but now we have a (not-so-happy) update to the update, after the jump.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Way Too Selective?” who was asked by a guy she went out with a few times (and slept with on their second date) whether she had slept with anyone else the night before she slept with him. “I laughed,” she wrote, “made some joke about the question, and said no. Then (and I should have seen this coming), he told me that he had hooked up with someone the same weekend we hooked up, and…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “A Little Leery,” who’d been communicating with a guy long distance over the internet, Skype, and phone. She met him through her ex when they were both in relationships, and when they both became single, they began discussing the possibility of starting a relationship when he moved back to the states. “The only thing is,” she wrote, “he admitted to me that he used to be a cheater. He told me he has cheated on…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Never Been Kissed,” a 21-year-old student who had “never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never spent more than five minutes alone with a guy, never received flowers, never [been asked out],” let alone kissed. She wrote: “Of course, it doesn’t help that two of my best friends are engaged and in love and another friend beats the guys off with a stick and always has them calling her and asking her out….

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Rugby Widow” whose letter about her concern with her husband’s safety and physical health while playing rugby appeared in a recent His Take column. After his two knee surgeries, and some kidney issues, she hoped he’d consider quitting. After the jump, find out if he’s any closer to making that hope a reality.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Love vs. Money” who wrote in last week about her concern about moving in with her boyfriend who makes significantly less than she does and has quite a bit more debt. She worries that with him, she will not be able to continue living the lifestyle she’s worked hard for and grown accustomed to. After the jump, she explains more about her situation.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Anxious Wedding Guest,” who was nervous about running into her ex-boyfriend at a weekend destination wedding. She wrote: “After not seeing him for two years, to suddenly spend a whole weekend with him is going to be torturous! […] I really don’t want my best friend’s wedding to be tainted because of my feelings towards this a**hole.” After the jump, find out whether she let her ex ruin her experience at her best friend’s recent…