Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I dated a guy named Bill for a few months who was in the same grad program as I was, but we broke up when it was time to discuss exclusivity. I wanted us to be exclusive and he didn’t want to commit to anyone at this point in his life. We parted amicably and still hang out as friends from time to time. Toward the end of the relationship, I discovered that he was very involved with the Pick Up Artist community. In short, he’d…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have a little “situation” with my best friend, who is 27 and is thinking of investing a $100,000+ loan into a franchise specialty restaurant in the town where her boyfriend lives (we live in a smaller town nearby). Now, while I am totally supportive of her moving ahead in life and starting her own business, this one seems to have come out of nowhere. She never mentioned being at all interested in starting or owning her own business until a week and a half ago….

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am 24-years-old my mother, who is now 46, divorced my father when I was 13, after years of dealing with his alcohol abuse, many physical altercations, and his refusing to take his medication or go to therapy for his bipolar disorder. My dad is currently serving time in prison. My mom has not dated anyone since they divorced. I live on my own, about a 40 minute drive away from the rest of my family, but both my brothers, aged 13 and 18, still live…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 26-years-old and need some advice on how to handle my parents’ divorce. My mom filed this past spring after two years of trying to make it work after discovering that my dad had been soliciting sex workers their entire marriage (which had problems before this big one). My mom has been financially dependent on my dad on some level or another their whole marriage. She has not worked since the mid-90s and cannot work now because of medical problems, but won’t go on disability because…

We have an emergency Your Turn today (the LW needs advice for a situation this weekend): I’m 29 and my roommate’s 38, and we’ve been living together for two years, which has worked really well so far. About a month ago, she started dating this guy who’s about ten years younger than she is. I get a really bad vibe off him, and all that aside, he’s sending up red flags like the coast guard in a hurricane. First off, they’ve broken up three times in the month they’ve been dating, due to his unstable job situation and his deciding he has to leave the state to find work, and then once…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend, “Victor,” and I met in high school through mutual friends and have been together almost 4 years. Victor and his friend “Harry” are now 23 and have known each other since they were about 7. Victor has not had a ton of girlfriends or experience with girls and is slightly awkward, so when we started dating in college, everyone from our high school was surprised. Harry dated girls for the first part of high-school but then came out as gay in our senior year….

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been in a long-term, off-and-on lesbian relationship for about two years. And not once has this relationship been “smooth sailing,” but we both stuck in there. For the past six months, we’ve been having A LOT of issues, which resulted in three major breakups, about to go on a fourth one. And every one of those breakups was initiated by her. I must admit, I was no angel in the relationship, but neither was she. Anyway, she came back about a month ago, after…