Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 27 and I’ve been dating my 34-year-old boyfriend for three and a half years, living together for two. We get along fantastically, still love being around each other, have great sex, and have shared interests in terms of our future. I’m in no rush to get married, but I figured that we were comfortably moving in that direction. Unfortunately, I shouldn’t have assumed. He says he can’t imagine life without me, but a year ago, he started expressing doubts not in our relationship, but in…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me about six weeks ago. It was mutual, but only because I knew he didn’t want to be in it anymore and, if he didn’t want to be, I didn’t either. It was pretty amicable — no one got angry or shouted — and I was actually almost relieved at the time (things had been going downhill for a while and I was getting tired of feeling insecure about his love for me all the…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m in the military and getting ready to deploy for six months. Before I leave, I’m spending a few days back home with my family. Two years ago my parents split up after 26 years of marriage because my father found another woman. My parents have both already remarried. My father married the woman he fell in love with and my mother seemed to find someone else right away. Visiting my mother is never a problem. She makes sure to clear her schedule to spend one-on-one…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I was a late bloomer and recently lost my virginity at 23. It was never something I was ashamed of, but I definitely…

In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: About two weeks ago, my boyfriend of almost exactly a year broke up with me. It was three days before what would’ve been our anniversary. I’m nineteen, and he was my first boyfriend, my first love, my first everything. We left it on pretty good terms, and I think eventually we will be friends, but right now I’m too sad. I guess my question is: any advice for a girl dealing with her first heartbreak? — First-time Heartbreak

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My ex-boyfriend and I dated for six months and it was a very bad relationship. I hadn’t seen him for three months when…

In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been dating the sweetest guy for about five months. We’ve been friends/coworkers for almost two years and I’ve never been with someone who is so good to me and makes me feel so special all the time. The problem is that my family doesn’t think he’s attractive or good enough for me. When we first got to know each other, I only loved him as a friend but he had much stronger feelings for me and was pretty irritating in his pursuit of me….

In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me (it’s a question I’ve tried many times to answer, so now it’s your turn!): I’ve been in a relationship for over seven years and I’m afraid it isn’t “going anywhere.” Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend. He makes me laugh, we enjoy many of the same things, he is attractive and really smart. We have similar values and we have fun together. All in all, it is the best relationship I have ever had or could hope for except: I want to spend…

In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been seeing my boyfriend for six months and things are going really great. Before I was with him, I had another relationship that lasted over two years, during which my ex cheated on me several times with multiple women. Unfortunately, I recently found out from a yearly pap smear that I have been diagnosed with HPV. My gynecologist told me that I have low grade lesions and that the virus should leave my body after a couple years with paps every six months….