Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I have had a passionate, whirlwind relationship for the last nine months. We do everything together, and, if he is not with me, he is with his brother and sister-in-law. When I first met them I noticed there were many sexual jokes between my boyfriend and his SIL, like my boyfriend accidentally getting her pregnant for child support, etc. He explained it as “their humor.” Even his brother would encourage the jokes. I expressed my discomfort, and he said it would stop. He…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We live together and love each other so much, but, since our relationship started, I had to drop out of college due to coming down with an unknown illness which was later discovered to be a lactose intolerance. I also suffered from reactive depression which caused stress-related IBS. Through out all of this, my boyfriend has looked after me so well. My parents love him, my sister likes him, my mum’s side of the family loves him,…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. In fact, I am in another country. We have only been together for three months, and just last week his mother of cancer. Of course, he was prepared for it but he is still in the denial phase. He told me that he needs some time to accept the loss and he even asked me for forgiveness because he is somewhat distant right now. But while he “takes time,” he continues his usual activities like nothing happened…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and we could not be any happier. We’ve been through a lot, and I have never been closer with anyone. There’s just…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: Last year this time, I was still with my boyfriend. We had been together for three and a half years and had been renting…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have an amazing boyfriend. We’re very happy together; we equally make plans, our banter keeps getting better and better, we’re really attracted to each other, and we enjoy spending lots of time with our respective friend groups. After we’d been dating for…

I am considering moving back to my home town after more than a decade away. I have a large group of friends there and want to raise a family and hopefully start a business there. However, there is someone who lives there whom I don’t ever want to see, but I know I will see them regularly as their circle of interests and friends overlaps with mine, and without fail, every time I go back for a visit, I see this person. The reason I don’t ever want to see this person is because they sexually assaulted and attempted to murder a close friend of my family. The victim was already terminally…