Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am to be married in July next year to the best man in the world. However, my mom and dad — who are paying almost all of the wedding — are very bitterly divorced. I have not had my mother in my life since I was 15 and it was not until a few years ago that I made up with her and built some boundaries so I could forgive her for leaving me. She is a slight wine-acholic — always been one — and…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I wrote to you previously about my girlfriend and me, who began living together after a few months of dating. She had discovered raunchy text messages I sent to a female friend. We had a long discussion about everything and acknowledged that yes, we did move in too soon, and a lot of our relationship insecurities stem from, I guess, our concerns about the relationship moving too fast. Honestly, I never really appreciated how effective an open line of communication is to remedy a problematic relationship…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m an educated 40-year-old woman who runs marathons, teaches high school, has two amazing kids and has recently divorced. I began a relationship with a man who is not educated, who is a blue-collar carpenter, and who was fun and free-spirited. A year into our relationship, I knew something was off (missed dates, low on finances, roommate at 42 years old) but NEVER did I believe it was a problem with alcohol. I fell hook, line and sinker for this man (who, by the way, has…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m a teacher, and I teach both English to non-English speakers and Russian to foreigners who come to visit our town in Russia. I have this student, a guy from Ireland who studies Russian, and I’ve been teaching him for almost six months now. He came to our town on a whim and he wants to get a permanent visa to stay here, though he only has a tourist visa now. Anyway, we’ve developed a friendly relationship and I’ve grown to like him a lot, which…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 24 and a mother of two boys. My current boyfriend is not the father of either child, we have been together for two years, and he is 35. I love this man to death, and he says he loves me which, at times, I believe, but I’ve started questioning our relationship. He has three children, one of whom I’ve met only once (he lives in the same area as us). I haven’t met the other two children. I’m wondering why I have yet to meet…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been dating my girlfriend for five months now. She met my family very early on in our relationship and she gets along with them great. (My family’s pretty wonderful and they were very friendly to her.) But I’ve never met her family. (They live on the other side of the country.) So here’s the thing: I’m going with her to her home state for a two week visit in August. During this time, I will be staying at her dad’s house for a while, visiting…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have a three-year-old daughter. The father is not in her life at all. The father’s family is not in her life at all. I was dating this guy named “Carl” for a year who was a wonderful guy for my daughter but not for me, so we split up. The day I split up with Carl I met a guy named “Frank” whom I have been dating almost two years now. I was living at my mom’s and he was living with his friends for…