Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: Three years ago I married my husband. Our situation is definitely weird. I had just turned 18 when we met. He was 20. We only dated about a month and a half before we got engaged. He asked me to marry him a week or so before he left for basic training in the army and he was gone the first few months we were married so we never spent time together. He shortly realized he didn’t want the army life and got out. Since then,…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I live in India and have been going out with this guy for over two years now. I’m 23 and he’s 27 and we…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I and I are both 22 and have been in a long-distance relationship for a little over a year now. He only went to college for his associate’s degree, so he has been working for the past year. And I am taking an extra year of college and graduating next May, so we have another year of distance ahead. Since he has several different career ideas, he doesn’t know where he will end up, and I want to go to law school so…

I’ve been in a relationship with a moody Capricorn for 4 ½ years. I moved in with him over a year ago and things started out just fine until his ex-wife texted me when I was out of town and told me he was sexting her while I was away. Of course, he apologized profusely and told me that he felt if I left his life it would be the biggest loss ever. Most women would forgive and forget, but to this day I still feel that there is something that he’s keeping from me (call it women’s intuition). Well, four weeks ago I went away for the weekend. I was supposed…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I just found out that my addict boyfriend is using heroin again. I had been asking him for the past month whether he was using heroin and he lied and said he wasn’t. Finally, he was honest and said he had been using heroin for a while but he wants to be clean. This is the fifth time he has said this but the first time since we’ve been together. I feel so stupid. I saw so many red flags, but I wanted more than anything…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am a 21-year-old female, and in the summer of my freshman year of college I got into this “relationship” with a guy who was kinda short and nerdy (he was in band) but really funny, and all was good until my parents forced me to transfer schools. I didn’t want to lose this guy, so I decided to have sex with him. In my mind I thought it would work because he was kind of lucky to be with me since I was “out of…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend “Aaron” for almost three years. We’re both 26. I’m a doctoral student and he has a great job in engineering. We have lived together for about a year and a half. I love him and our life together; our personalities click, we have many shared interests, we laugh together a lot, we co-habitate fabulously, and for the most part we have reasonable communication. Our lives are full of volunteering with a youth organization very important to both of us, BBQs,…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I recently broke up for just a day. Honestly, we have no idea why we broke up — we just did….

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I have had a passionate, whirlwind relationship for the last nine months. We do everything together, and, if he is not with me, he is with his brother and sister-in-law. When I first met them I noticed there were many sexual jokes between my boyfriend and his SIL, like my boyfriend accidentally getting her pregnant for child support, etc. He explained it as “their humor.” Even his brother would encourage the jokes. I expressed my discomfort, and he said it would stop. He…