Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m an educated 40-year-old woman who runs marathons, teaches high school, has two amazing kids and has recently divorced. I began a relationship with a man who is not educated, who is a blue-collar carpenter, and who was fun and free-spirited. A year into our relationship, I knew something was off (missed dates, low on finances, roommate at 42 years old) but NEVER did I believe it was a problem with alcohol. I fell hook, line and sinker for this man (who, by the way, has…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I are preparing to be long-distance while we complete our master’s degrees and then move in together again once we are done. He’s wonderful, we have a great relationship, and we’re planning on spending the rest of our lives together. I do have one small, but persistent concern. He’ll be attending school in the same city as one of his female friends, P. Throughout our five-year relationship, P has been around to make negative comments about me and act a little emotionally unhinged…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m a teacher, and I teach both English to non-English speakers and Russian to foreigners who come to visit our town in Russia. I have this student, a guy from Ireland who studies Russian, and I’ve been teaching him for almost six months now. He came to our town on a whim and he wants to get a permanent visa to stay here, though he only has a tourist visa now. Anyway, we’ve developed a friendly relationship and I’ve grown to like him a lot, which…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 24 and a mother of two boys. My current boyfriend is not the father of either child, we have been together for two years, and he is 35. I love this man to death, and he says he loves me which, at times, I believe, but I’ve started questioning our relationship. He has three children, one of whom I’ve met only once (he lives in the same area as us). I haven’t met the other two children. I’m wondering why I have yet to meet…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have known “Rob” my WHOLE life — we grew up together. We hadn’t talked for a few years because of moving away and growing up. Recently, two months ago, we reconnected and have been hanging out. We seem to click — we laugh, share interests, and have fun. Rob wouldn’t kiss me the first couple of times we hung out, but would get all touchy, and then I confronted him about it, and he said he didn’t want to be too forward. The next time…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been dating my girlfriend for five months now. She met my family very early on in our relationship and she gets along with them great. (My family’s pretty wonderful and they were very friendly to her.) But I’ve never met her family. (They live on the other side of the country.) So here’s the thing: I’m going with her to her home state for a two week visit in August. During this time, I will be staying at her dad’s house for a while, visiting…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My husband and I got married in September of last year. We had only been together just over a year when we got married. Before we got married I was so happy, we never argued, we always cuddled watching TV, and we had sex all the time (it was short, but there was a lot). He would even get me to stop what I was doing for us to have sex. But something has changed and it’s like he is a totally different person. We barely…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have a three-year-old daughter. The father is not in her life at all. The father’s family is not in her life at all. I was dating this guy named “Carl” for a year who was a wonderful guy for my daughter but not for me, so we split up. The day I split up with Carl I met a guy named “Frank” whom I have been dating almost two years now. I was living at my mom’s and he was living with his friends for…