Yeah, if you’ve tried numerous times to work through an issue with your boyfriend with no resolution, that’s probably because there isn’t going to be a resolution. At seven months in, if your boyfriend hasn’t told his ex-girlfriend, who is still very present in his life, that he has a new girlfriend, he is keeping you a secret for a reason. That, and the fact that he lies consistently to you, he gaslights you when you try to discuss the lies (he tries to “make you feel you are remembering it all wrong”), and you don’t trust the guy are all clear signs that you need to move on. It’s not going to work out. And in the future, don’t let someone “stay at your apartment” if your relationship isn’t solid and at an appropriate place to discuss living together.
P.S. No one is perfect. If you continue believing a boyfriend is “perfect,” you will 100% be let down when you discover he is not.
He got busier — added school, work, his side business, his sick mom, gym, and other stuff. We live 45 minutes away from each other, and I drove to see him twice while he didn’t drive to see me at all. I did the texting, and he did the responding. He never called, but he said I could call him any time. I broke it off two times, and he chased me both times until I went back to him; however, nothing changed.
Finally, two days ago he broke it off with me, through a text, because he saw I was unhappy and he said he was overwhelmed with everything. After his break-up text, I told him it hurt me because he texted it instead of calling me. He texted back saying he was sorry I felt that way, he wished things were different, and to enjoy my evening. Then he sent “xo❤.”
I’m trying to move forward, but my friend said he will text me because he’s a narcissist. Do you think he will text me? Why would he send the heart and xo? I felt that was mean to do after he broke it off!! — Trying to Move Forward
He was trying to soften the blow – it literally means nothing. There is zero relationship between you — there never has been and never will be. You saw each other twice in a year and a half? He never came to visit you, never called you, never actively even texted you except to break up. He does not care about you and only liked the attention he got from you until he started feeling guilty or inconvenienced by you. Please MOA. It shouldn’t be hard since he wasn’t a part of your life at all. Simply block his number and block him on social media and the problem is solved.
You are about to have “children” (twins?) with a man you were only dating a few months before you got pregnant, who is recently released from prison and still legally married to a drug addict. You already have four children between you, and you admit to “doubts” and “hiccups” in the relationship. The likelihood of the soon-to-be wife and her daughter being the only source of those hiccups — at least for much longer — is zero, and you would be wise to focus on the challenges you have some control over that actually matter in the long run. For example, I think limiting the number of children who call your boyfriend “daddy” is a great idea, and I hope you will do your part to make that happen by practicing birth control from here on out and suggesting that your boyfriend get a vasectomy.
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