Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.
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Why does it matter to you so much why she passed on you? It was one date. Can you not just tell yourself you weren’t a match and move on? Especially if you think it seems silly and regressive(??) to be cautious about who from the internet you go home with.
JeffMay 10, 2023 at 10:51 am #1120126In that case, a fair question… I think the difference and border between asking (say the third date is going well and I think it’s okay to ask for a kiss or to come over) and being pushy is thin. How would you tell the difference between the two? What would you do?
May 10, 2023 at 10:57 am #1120132I think the podunk comment was in response to this comment.
“I don’t think hooking up on a first date should be any real indicator of intent… it should be one of interest. But that’s just me and that’s where I come from on this having… grown up in NYC I guess.”
I took it similarly to how Anonymousse did.
Since no one else has brought it up, I’d like to propose another possibility of why things turned for the worse on this date: Maybe your date was not feeling the sexual connection with you and it changed her perspective on how the date went.
JeffMay 10, 2023 at 10:59 am #1120135bloodymediocrity: Yeah so I’m sorry it came off that way. I just assume hookup culture here IS indeed different from other places. And I don’t think it’s wrong to believe otherwise but I am setting some context here on why… I don’t think hooking up on a first date is bad at all. If you disagree that’s fine but that’s almost orthogonal to the conversation.
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