DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Veritek, obviously do what you want and feels right. I would just say, learn from your past experiences and incorporate them. I’ll leave it at that.
Here’s the thing. Veritek mis-read the last guy. He was a Tinder Tourist who was looking for casual sex in her town. Maybe a pen pal. She got too comfy too quick and was really hurt when she realized they weren’t on the same page. We don’t know yet if this guy is interested in dating after the holidays and the ball and NYE are over. He was using OKC to find a ball date. He may be into her beyond that, who knows. But if I were her I’d give it a little time to find out if they are on the same page before taking it to the comfort zone. For now, treat it like the holiday date that it is, no more.
I’m not the least bit offended or upset at the advice. You guys are fine. Clearly doing the same thing over and over again hasn’t worked, so I’m always open to opinions. I appreciate the ideas and thoughts.
She didn’t entirely misread, she did question and realize it. Yes, she let it go further than perhaps she should have, but it doesn’t negate that she had inklings before. She needs to listen to herself. I just worry when she says she feels like she can’t do anything right, it’s going too far in the other direction.
She needs to date like she dates. I’m someone who can’t go out all the time. It wouldn’t be me and it would be a terrible idea for me to play all these games. I’m not saying she’s like that. I’m just saying, if this is her, it’s not a bad idea to see him in that context. I’m saying she needs to date like herself and use what she’s learned in the past.
I appreciate it Ladyinpurple. I’m taking it all in.
On a lighter note – what color manicure should I get??? I had green for the ball and I just took it off last week. What’s a fun color for new years/ will look appropriate for work?
Wellllll I haven’t completely settled on a dress yet. I have a brown satin/taffeta bridesmaid dress from 2008 that is very retro and highlights what I got but needs a little jazzing up OR I have a gold dress with a deep v-neck that’s a bit more form fitting but I will freeze my ass off if I wear it OR I was gonna hit macys and a few other stores today to see if I could find maybe a cute black dress to wear. My old faithful LBD was lost in the Great Dry-Cleaning Incident of 2014 so it needs to be replaced anyway.
So, Brown, gold or black are the options.
