DW Community Catch-up Thread
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So, marginally dating related…some random dude from OKC messaged me on Friday asking if he could stay on my couch Saturday night since his son was playing in a tournament in my town, he was planning to fly in (he’s 1000 km away…600 miles, I think), and couldn’t find a hotel room. Finished his message with “I’m normal”. WTF?
@Abbytoo WTF indeed. I was on OKC for a couple months when I was dating (currently very busy with work and needed a break from it) and its my least favorite platform on account of the riffraff. My weirdest message was from a guy who works in the same large high-rise building (different companies) I do. He recognized me, regurgitated our work address, and went on to describe a “moment” we’d had when we made eye contact at a breakfast in our lobby for employees of all companies in the building. I couldn’t have picked this guy out of a lineup. Still couldn’t. But every once in awhile I’ll wonder if he’s the stranger standing next to me in the elevator.
Copa, that sounds way creepier that random couch surfing dude. Yikes.
veritek, I’m sorry about your date, that sucks. 🙁
As for me, after I picked my jaw up off the floor (and screenshotted the email for proof when I tell the story) I not so gently suggested http://www.couchsurfing.com.
kareMarch 14, 2016 at 1:15 pm #445306“I’m normal”…uh normal people book hotels or vacation rentals or make some sort of arrangement.
I had a crazy, fun, painful weekend. We went out for my friend’s birthday. Her fiance didn’t want to go, so she came with two of his friends then we met up with a group of people. My FWB invited his friends – the guy I hooked up with on new years and his girlfriend. Even though it was a random assortment of people, it was really fun. Except for clutching the toilet for dear life part. Then my FWB left, and I woke up next to the albanian guy that I used to hook up with. So lesson learned, no more fireball shots for this girl.
I’m hoping that I’ll babysit this weekend, and my friend’s fiance will take her out on a date since she took him to a really fancy dinner for his birthday a couple of months ago. But since he didn’t do anything for valentine’s day or their 4 year anniversary, I’m not sure that will happen.
March 14, 2016 at 3:09 pm #445320My weekend was lots of fun! Surprise party for my friends BF went very well, although none of the BF’s friends interacted with us, which was awkward.
The afternoon delight with Slogan Guy went well too! A little awkward finding the right movements and such, but we both had fun and definitely looking forward to more 😉
March 14, 2016 at 9:36 pm #445359Ugh I am probably going to get shit for this rant, but I don’t care. Otherwise I am going to go crazy. So as I have mentioned in the past, I used to date someone whom I called ‘Navy Guy.’ Dated for a year and a bit, with a break 7 months in, then we got back together in the spring of last year then broke up when I came back home this past fall. Anyways, since coming home I eventually blocked him on FB so I wouldn’t have him show up on my news feed. Well today he showed up on my news feed but through a comment on a mutual friends page. This friend is actually my brothers friend, and she goes to the same university I did. We hung out a handful of times while she was going to school at the same time as me. When my bro visited twice we would all hang out. She knew about Navy Guy and our dating history. We eventually fell out of touch during the second semester of my last year due to her never getting back to me to hangout. So this comment that my ex Navy Guy made was very suggestive and flirty. She changed her cover page to one that had her and two other people in it from behind looking at an ice rink with the tagline ‘how do our butts look?’ My ex commented with a meme saying along the lines of ‘looking good, I approve!’ Now several alarms went off, first of all I mentioned her off an on to Navy Guy, he knew I hung out with her and her connection with my brother. She may have met him once in the whole time I dated him, but I honestly can’t recall. But she was not a big enough part of my life that friending her while we were dating would be deemed necessary (he is friends with my BFF though, the only time we had a mutual friend on FB). So him being friends with her on FB was the first alarm. Then of course the second was the very flirty comment/meme he made on her picture, which was what he did when we first dated, posted flirty memes etc. And that now leads me to hypothesizing they are dating. And I am just having a big WTF moment. I am resisting so hard to message Navy Guy and ask what is going on, as it is none of my business, and he is allowed to date. But if this is what is going on, why her?! She knows my history with him, he knows how I know her through my brother and that we hung out a bunch. And with her being in school and him the Navy there really is no other way for them to have met, maybe the bars? Or online dating site? It is basically sloppy seconds…I unfollowed her on FB so I don’t see future possible comments/posts from him to her. Now I creeped both their pages and aside from a picture she liked on his page a few days ago, this is the only time he has come out and commented or made his presence known on her FB page. I am just confused and this whole possibility rubs me the wrong way. I am just going crazy in my head trying to figure this out and now trying not to think about this and not be bothered. I am dating someone new, he can too but just why her?!? Again all hypothesizing, but it just adds up in no other way…End crazy ex rant.
kareMarch 14, 2016 at 10:45 pm #445363Unfortunately, your ex is allowed to date whatever person is willing to date him. And this girl isn’t really your friend, so it’s not like she needs your approval. I know it can be hard to see an ex moving on, and feelings aren’t always rational. It’s been awhile since I’ve had facebook, but when I had people blocked I couldn’t see their comments. Is there a way to double check the setting? I deactivated my Facebook because my ex and I had a ton of mutual friends. Even though I had him blocked and couldn’t see any of his comments, people would frequently posts pictures with him in them and such. Maybe deactivate your Facebook for a couple of weeks and see how that goes? Sometimes a break from online life can be freeing. Especially since what people post on Facebook isn’t always the best indicator of relationships.
What Kare said. Also, I remember- it stands out because there were two Navy Guys – that you stated you were getting back together with him as FWB only and weren’t interested in a relationship. It seems like on this thread you’ve just looked for casual things, so why get jealous and upset?
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