Ya I don’t know. You could always follow up with him tomorrow and ask how his long weekend was and if no response by the end of the day probably safe to say he is fading out. I mentioned a while ago when I was going out with a guy (2 dates and 3 weeks total) he had suggested bringing me to a friend house warming and when I told him I couldn’t due to previous plans I suggested something for the following week. Didn’t hear from him for 2 days (typical with him unfortunately), and then did a follow up text, and to this day never heard from him! He seemed like a nice guy, really interested in seeing me, but ya un fricken predictable!

Ok, I actually don’t like this: “He said his one “ask” was that I not waste his time, because he has met women who just want attention, and told me he didn’t plan to waste mine, either.”

I’m trying to think how to articulate why that would rub me the wrong way… I guess 1) because, really dude? These women just wanted attention? And this is a regular thing that happens to you? And how is it that you know they just want attention? And why are you complaining to me about it anyway? 2) What does that even mean? You date someone to see if you like them. At what point am I wasting your time? When I decide I’m not actually that into you, and you then conclude I’m one of those nasty time-wasting dinner whores who just wanted attention? And 3) people who complain about game playing are usually the worst offenders.

He may not have ghosted you, and maybe he’ll turn up with a hospitalization… but the last time he contacted you about a date was going on two weeks ago and you haven’t heard from him… doesn’t look polite according to his own standards.

@kate I agree. When she shared that about him it raised some warning flags for me. I have seen many guys’ profiles with the statement of ‘no drama’ ‘no games’ etc and I avoid those. Just off putting that they generalize that and also assume most women are like that. Kind of like the ‘nice guy’ syndrome.

I think this is sounding like a bullet dodged

@Cleopatra – Notwithstanding those comments, if this is how he chooses to end things, bullet dodged, yes. I think ghosting is tacky and rude. I’m still holding onto a little bit of hope, but realistically not expecting him to pop back up.

I mean, he didn’t actually say he doesn’t have time because he has a demanding job. (I read the latter into his statement because his job does take up a good chunk of his time. His statement was mostly “I’m looking for something serious, I only date one person at a time, I don’t have a ton of free time, and don’t want my time wasted.”) Not sure if that changes anyone’s opinions. In any case, I didn’t find what he said cringe-y and if I’m in the minority on that, it’s okay. I truly think all he wanted to communicate was that he doesn’t want to be spending time with women who know they’re on a different page than he is but enjoy the free dinners.

I do, however, disagree that most people date for the attention. I don’t. Do most people? I want find a meaningful connection and someone to talk to. Unless that’s the same as wanting attention?