DW Community Catch-up Thread
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WES, Ale. I’m in shock at his behavior. What a fucking asshole. And I agree with whomever said to NOT GOVE HIM HIS SHIT FROM AMAZON. Send it back. Give it to someone else, but do NOT give it to him. That will send a very clear message. Even if he DID pay for it. Fuck him.
Yeah, I don’t want to be the “crazy exgirlfriend” who donated his shit to charity. I would love to, though, but I just want to take the high road and be out of this as soon as possible. And to give him his stuff I don’t really have to contact him, I just have to leave it on his desk or send it with someone else.
And well, @Kate was right, he is still messing with me. He managed to contact me to ask me his email password cause he “didn’t remember it”, after I straight up ignored him at work. That was a long conversation over the phone with me asking him for space because he is all over me.
Guess who showed up to the gym one hour after I asked for space… That’s when I really lost my shit. I told him that I had asked him to switch gyms and he said he had already paid this month. “I didn’t know it bothered you so much to see me” was his answer.
He honestly has no clue that when you break up with someone, you just let them be. He doesn’t think that he did anything to hurt me this past week. He din’t know he had to stop talking to me and stop asking me for things.
I very calmly and politely told him to stop trying to contact me through any media. And he promised to do that because I need peace of mind. And now, I already paid for this months at the gym and I will have to lose my money or try to ask for it back and find a new place to train. I really don’t want to see him.Ale, you have to protect yourself and stop having any conversations with him. That’s what he wants. If he asks you for his password, you ignore him. If he shows up at the gym, finish your workout in silence and leave. Don’t talk to him. Don’t respond to anything. He’ll stop messing with you once he stops getting what he wants (a reaction). Consistently. Every time.
https://lovefraud.com/how-to-implement-no-contact-2/
So, I’m not saying your ex is a sociopath, but this article on how to do No Contact still applies.
Yeah, I don’t know what his particular problems are, but he is acting like an asshole in the extreme. Not respecting your requests makes him *a bad guy.*
“He honestly has no clue that when you break up with someone, you just let them be. He doesn’t think that he did anything to hurt me this past week. He din’t know he had to stop talking to me and stop asking me for things.”
Aw, adorable. Even if you really believe that, Ale, that he’s just an innocent who doesn’t know anything about the world, NOW HE KNOWS. You told him. He needs to stay out of your face and your ear, and unfortunately it is on you to make sure he does. You can do this.
Ale. Ignore him. If he shows up at the gym, finish up your workout and leave. If he approaches you, calmly tell him you’re finishing your workout and to leave you be. DO NOT ENGAGE. That’s what he wants. And as long as you do, he still has some kind of twisted hold on you.
He can’t remember his password? Fuck that. That are ways to reset your password. If he that’s clueless about life, then he needs way more help than you can offer.
Again. DO NOT ENGAGE! It’s like that sign do not feed the bears. Stop feeding this one.
At the gym, you might want to consider telling the front desk staff that this guy is your ex and you’ve requested that he leave you alone, but he won’t. They may be able to help you by keeping an eye on him when he checks in, and if he goes over to you, they can go get him and lead him away to another area. If you think they’d be sympathetic, it’s something to consider. If any other guy was harassing me at the gym and didn’t comply with my requests to be left alone to work out in peace, I’d do the same.
