@TheHizzy, my mom has sciatica, the time it flared up and was really bad, it was hard to watch her. Constantly in pain. I wish you the best and hope you can get some relief!!

@veritek33 I’m having fun with both, but they’re two very different guys. A.T. is quieter and kinda serious. C.T. is more outgoing and super expressive. I dunno that I like one more than the other at this point. A.T. has been traveling a lot (just left for a two-week South America trip), but I am also beginning to feel like I’m not very high on his priority list, and he’s more okay with last-minute plans. I was in STL for almost a week for work, and we had overlap in our same city for a day. He already had plans with friends and it was planned far in advance, but I was a little disappointed that he didn’t even seem to care to try to squeeze time in together knowing it’d be weeks before we could see each other again. (He ended up texting me when part of his Saturday night plans got cancelled over the weather we were having, but I was already committed to other plans at that point.) And then on the other hand is C.T., who never lets a date end without planning out the next time he’s going to see me. (Incidentally, I actually feel a little overwhelmed by that, like I’m being put on the spot or something. I think seeing someone once a week while I’m figuring out how I feel about them is enough.) So that’s my update!

Re: irrational dating anxiety. I do feel it sometimes, but my anxiety/intuition is normally a pretty accurate reflection of my dating reality. I normally feel it when I think I’m about to be ghosted, or when things legit feel “off” to me but I can’t put my finger on why, and I’ve been correct fa-haaar more often than not.

Sounds like you’re having fun, Copa!

@TheHizzy I hope you feel better soon and are quickly on the mend!

Tonight, I met with a new friend/comedienne who organizes and produces all-women stand-up-comedy shows locally. She & I connected last month and we met tonight at a brewery that I love where I want to have a show. She said she wanted to check the place out so I suggested we meet there for a drink, and she really liked it! She says a show there in early December is definitely doable. So I have to test out my material at open mics this month & next, and I’ll get to celebrate my birthday with my friends by doing standup for them at my favorite bar! I’m so excited.

And also she brought along a girl who was in the audience at my first open mic and she was SO complimentary and said I was hilarious. 😀 It was amazing! The next couple months are going to be awesome. Next open mic – where I try out my material for the (eventual) brewery show – is Saturday!

I’m really happy because my boyfriend has started telling his family about me. That’s a big deal in his culture.

For some reason I was really nervous that his mother wouldn’t approve of me (because I’m a different race, different religion) but apparently she’s thrilled!

So, I’m really excited!

His friend even sent him a wedding invitation addressed to both of us by name (not just him + one). It’s a little thing I know, but I really feel like I’m actually an important part of his life.

Before our last visit, I had sent him a keychain. It has two little old fashioned analogue clocks side by side, one set to his time zone and one set to mine (we are 5 hours apart). When I got there to visit, sure enough he had put it on his key ring. Again, little things. But it feels good 🙂

I’m really looking forward to his visit here.