DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I have a ¿date? Saturday.
The guy from Tinder that I already knew.
We were together in the same program in Grad School, maybe 4-5 years ago? Then I changed programs and we kind of lost touch, just randomly liking each other posts on Facebook.
We started talking on Tinder but then he texted me (turns out he still had my number).
He asked me out for coffee on Saturday, I don’t know if it is a “romantic” date or not. I am not anxious because I know him from before, I know what he looks like in person. Also, he always made it seem like he vas very interested in me and I remember that we used to laugh a lot in class. We even teamed up for some group projects.
So… We’ll see.
@LadyE We haven’t gone out again yet! He’s just been texting pleasantries and I’m assuming another date invite is around the corner. (So, basically, getting all riled up about nothing.) I’m less anxious than yesterday for whatever reason, so the idea of a second date no longer feels like a Huge Thing weighing me down.
@Ale Do you want it to be romantic? If you connected on a dating app, I think it’s safe to assume it’s a romantic date (or at least one to feel out the possibility of romance, since I believe you said you both had The Feels before but timing was never great — right?). If you’re not interested in it being romantic or having that potential right, maybe find a way to bring it up ahead of time?Ale, it’s not a friend date, you two ran into each other on Tinder. He’s interested. Are you sure you don’t want to tell him you’ll be in touch when you’re ready to date, but you just got out of a relationship and not feeling ready yet? I only say that because you keep saying you’re not ready, you just want to meet friends, etc, see what’s out there, and if you’re really not ready, you could blow your shot with this guy by freaking out or something.
I liked him before, he is very funny and good looking. But he had a girlfriend then, one time I ran into him and he even introduced her to me.
I do think he’s interested, he texted me right away and asked if I was free on Saturday to grab coffee and catch up.
Let me explain how I feel, I’m not ready to date random people, but this is a guy that I knew before, so it’s kind of like I want to see what’s there, like it’s worth a shot? I haven’t freaked out yet which is a good sign. I’m not nervous about the date which is another good sign.Like Copa said, I want to feel out the possibility? I don’t want to miss this chance, he was always like the perfect guy on paper. Is that bad?
I don’t think it’s bad! I guess I personally don’t relate — it’s been a few years since I was recently out of a LTR, and when I wasn’t ready to date, I wouldn’t have been ready to date ANYONE — but it’s not bad. I also don’t think you’d necessarily miss a chance by telling him you need a little more time (if that’s how you feel). You’ll have to let us know how it goes! I see some of my grad school buddies on dating apps and always swipe left because I remember what they were like back then and NOPE!
” Also, he always made it seem like he vas very interested in me and I remember that we used to laugh a lot in class.”
“I do think he’s interested, he texted me right away and asked if I was free on Saturday to grab coffee and catch up.”
@Ale I’m confused. Was he interested prior and you don’t think he is now? I dunno, meeting on Tinder and setting something up right away with you for Saturday (even if it’s coffee) shows interest to me. I’d say this sounds like a date.I’ve been dating someone for almost two months. We’ve already gone on long camping trips, did long distance and changed states together. Soo.. Yeah. Lol.
I just kinda said fuck it and took a chance on him and it’s worked out well. It happened he needed winter work and applied at my winter job and got hired. We arrived separately but at the same time over a week ago. It was a whirlwind of holy shits and big time blow ups cause we don’t really know each other. It’s mellowed out.
Right now he’s doing a two night backpacking trip. He hiked to a viewpoint and waved his scarf in the air so I could see him. It was kinda adorable. He gets back tomorrow and then I take off for a two night backpacking trip on Sunday.
So there’s my update. HeheSo, date was yesterday and we talked for three hours, no kiss or anything just a hug.
At first, I could feel he was interested, asking a lot of questions. I was honest, told him this was the first time I went out since my break up six months ago. We have a lot of things in common, but I just didn’t feel it. I don’t know if he did. This guy could have been perfect for me when I first met him, but I don’t think he is good for me right now. He is a great guy though.
Afterwards asked me if I got home ok and said he had a nice time and wished me good night. No talk of going out again.
@Trixy Glad it sounds like things are working out for you. Hope you’re having fun!
@Ale Well, at least you know now and won’t have to wonder what may have happened if you hadn’t gone. Do you think you guys would start hanging out again as friends? Even if you don’t feel a spark, he may have some nice, single friends for when you’re feeling ready to date again!
@ale, I’m glad you went out with him and recognize that he’s not the guy for you right now, and that’s OK.
I had a low-key weekend. M.G. and I visited a farm. We madeout in an empty corn maze. I floated lunch with my sister and BIL and he was interested so that’ll be this weekend I think. He then invited me to his family’s Christmas gathering with cousins etc. which is in a month, so it’s not right at Christmas at least. It feels a little soon but it’ll be 3 months if we get there. His family lives two hours away so it’s seems hard to meet them without making it a “thing”. He also then mentioned he’s not sure if he can go either since he might be traveling for work. But yeah, still seeing where this goes! He’s meeting a few more of my friends this week too.
Any updated from you folks? @ver? @copa, did you go on a second date with that guy?
