DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Did you ever see his *real* Facebook? He always sounded to me like a guy who was in another relationship (probably still is).
@Copa yeah he always told me he didn’t like being on Facebook (which is fair enough, I know a number of people who feel the same way and aren’t on there) so he just created an empty account so he could use Tinder.
But I did eventually find his REAL Facebook and when I asked him about it he told me it’s only for his house flipping side business and he doesn’t use it for anything personal.
I couldn’t say whether or not he was in another relationship. I never caught him in a lie, but just the fact that I felt so much anxiety and actually went LOOKING for ways to prove everything he was saying, was a clear sign that something was not right and my instinct was trying to warn me.
Like, my dad is a flight instructor so he was really excited that I was dating a pilot. And he thought it would be fun to show me how to listen to air traffic control and what all the commands mean. Which started out innocent enough, but it turned into me getting anxiety and anytime this guy told me about his flights, I would tune in to air traffic control so I could hear his voice over the radio. And sure enough he was always where he said he’d be.
But yeah, something was clearly not right between us, whether he was lying about shit I have no idea, or maybe it was just that we were so incredibly incompatible and in the back of my head I knew that. He was SO charming, but he made me feel so intimidated and insecure.
I definitely acted crazy when I was seeing him and I’m so glad I moved on from that and regained my sanity.
I DO know a couple people who only have a Facebook for the purpose of having a dating app because they don’t want to be on Facebook but want to use the dating apps. So they have an account but few to no friends on there, and don’t log in. But what this guy did, yeah, that’s weird. Why have two separate fake Facebook accounts? Why not just the one fake account? Once the Tinder account is created, you don’t actually need to use any of the Facebook photos (if that’s a concern) and can opt out of having your employment info shown on your profile. Something’s fishy there. And yeah, not a great sign if you’re listening to air traffic control to see if your new boyfriend is lying to you. Glad you’ve moved on and up. 🙂
We tell LWs on here often enough that if they’re snooping in the first place, something isn’t right.
I guess I’m not surprised that he was always where he said he’d be, as that was his work schedule and probably no reason to lie about it. But he sounded to me like a guy who had different women in different places where he was either based or visited regularly, and / or was a big Tinder Tourist. That whole thing where he’d suddenly block you was a sign of that kind of BS.
It’s funny… with my current boyfriend, all of my friends have told me right from the start that I’m different with him than I have been with any other guy.
I asked what they meant by that, and they said, “You’re just so relaxed. You’re so calm. We’ve never seen you be this easy going about any guy.”
I wasn’t sure whether to be insulted or to take that as a good thing.
Wow, what a blast from the past. I can see not using FB but if you were to have a “professional” one wouldn’t you go for a page rather than a profile?
Also, 500 pages, guys… this has been an epic thread, ha.
It’s my birthday! I got up this morning and went to the gym, and now I’m about to have lunch and curl up with my little dog until my family gets here from up north and we’ll go out for a fancy dinner. In the spirit of Carrie Bradshaw, I bought myself my own cake…well, pie, actually – a maple custard pie that the Pie Hole made only for Thanksgiving.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! I am grateful for this forum and sense of community. 🙂
