DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Cool Kate, did you delete the “Kate that’s what I said” comment I made? This is more and more like you trying to silence me and trying to look like you’re so above it all and make witty comments. It’s all good though! You’re the worst “moderator.” Is that adding to my jackass persona? Awesome! but it’s true. I’ve been following this since page 1! I notice whenever someone makes a comment you don’t like you try to come up with a one liner. Then everyone else joins in and then when the outsider doesn’t comment anymore, everyone jumps on them. Totally your mo, isn’t it?
K, how bout we all move on? I believe you that you weren’t purposely trying to be a troll and I’m ready to complain about how I want to punch somebody at work haha.
This woman I work with, who is my direct manager, DRIVES ME EFFING NUTS. Like at first I just thought we were opposites so we just didn’t see eye to eye, but I’m at the point where I’m starting to hate her.
Ohhhhh lordy I’d better get my business up and running successfully so I can quit my job and move to Scotland with money. Haha. That’s not about dating… but it’s sort of about me moving to Scotland to be with my partner!
Um. Your “Kate that’s what I said” comment is still there. I haven’t been following this thread since the first page, but I’ve been an active participant in the forums for, IDK, a year? Kate gives straightforward, no nonsense advice (here and on other threads).
I feel like we’re on the verge of the “you’re violating my first amendment rights, even though you’re not the government, but nobody realizes that the first amendment only applies to the government and not random people on the internet” territory.
You have a right to say what you want, but everyone else has a right to say what they want. Your right to say things doesn’t mean you also have a right to tell people when they can or can’t reply to you. It’s not a right to not get pushback for things you say that other people don’t like.
Sorry you hate your supervisor, @MissDre! I know that feeling. There was a guy at my last company who I wanted to be my supervisor (there were talks of it, but my actual supervisor – the guy I hated – never made it a reality). Anyway, we have an opening where I am and I encouraged him (the guy I liked) to apply. He applied lightning fast (and then basically told me he’s looking around and asked if I can be a reference for him). My supervisor here likes his resume and I gave him a rave review. I know it may not pan out, but I’d love to work with him again! I love solid workplace relationships.
Also, not to belabor the point, but if you say that you’re “sorry” but that everyone is “misreading” and “mischaracterizing” you and that no one should actually be offended by your remarks, that’s not an apology in any real sense and you shouldn’t be surprised if people are frustrated with your ongoing inability to get why you offended them.
Can I threadjack for a sec here guys? I’d like to ask the wise Dating Threaders for advice about splitting expenses with a live-in partner. Banjo and I already know we’ll be splitting rent and utilities in half so that’s fine. I’m more wondering about day to day expenses – stuff like groceries, cleaning products, couple beers grabbed on the way home, and stuff like that. Right now we keep track of most things (like both put in cash for dinners out, take turns buying rounds of drinks, both paying if we’re going to an event). But once we’re living together I feel like it’ll be a lot less clear whose stuff (tomatoes, soap,etc) is whose and could get slightly complicated? It feels too petty to expect everything split totally evenly. But I also worry that since I tend to be the planner I might end up taking on more of the expenses just kind of accidentally. Anyone have any advice about a way to easily make it fair-ish, but without having to constantly be worried about it? (I don’t think we’ll open an account together yet, so other than that. We also can’t use Venmo or PayPal in our country.)
