Lol. The cheap part honestly doesn’t bother me, but embedded in the Panera date was the 3rd red flag: he only had 2 hours of free time on a Tuesday that whole week to shoehorn me into his schedule because of all of his social and political activism meetings until the following Sunday. It turned out he wasn’t willing to prioritize our relationship in among all of that, and that’s why he eventually broke up with me.

It’s taken many months but as of about a week ago I have actually started to have real feelings for someone else (and that’s all I can say about that right now) so I feel…really free, for the first time in what is now a year.

That would be telling!! But WHOEVER it is, we had dinner last week (he asked me) & he says he wants to do it again. So we shall see! I’m keeping quiet because truly, who knows what will happen – probably nothing, if history tells us anything. 😛

Haha, yes it is him. He’s great, even more so than I originally thought. But I am really, really trying to have low expectations and just see what happens. 🙂

I’ve moved firmly into the “don’t shit where you eat” camp, so proceed with caution!

2 places I never date – my work and my hobbies. All have too small of groups.

FMH dated at his work, a lot, and it all ended poorly. I’ll leave that pot be.

I just laughed aloud a little that FMH did it multiple times despite it not ending well. My Crossfit gym has had a handful success stories. I’d consider dating a guy at my gym, but there’s nobody there I’d like to date who is single. One guy at my gym sends me a lot of IG messages and at first I thought he was interested, but he’s never asked me out and we seldom go to the same classes.

A co-worker of mine is dating someone who is on our Board of Governors. Things worked out well for them — they moved in together within the past year. The other guy isn’t a staff member, but I do wonder if they had to disclose their relationship to higher ups when they started seeing each other.

In happier news, I have a first Bumble date this weekend with a guy who has yet to send me any nudie butt pics. (Score!) Seems nice, seems to have his shit together, likes his job, easy to converse with digitally. Likes to travel but isn’t one of those pretentious guys who lists the number of countries he’s been to in his profile. This may seem kinda silly, but it’s a general observation from dating. When I tell people I lived overseas growing up, I get two general reactions: the unbelievably confused ones who cannot seem to fathom that sometimes people live abroad, and the ones who find it interesting and are curious. This guy falls into the latter category and I’m so glad — they tend to be the ones interested in the world around them, and I love that.