DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Lady E …don’t date coworkers, you won’t be able to handle it. It will end up with someone losing their position
Love this quote from Mark Twain:
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.”
Fun Fact: this thread turns 3 years old next month on the anniversary of Man of Veritek’s and my first date, which we only figured out by going back in our texts to find date stamps because neither of us remembered lol.
Many years ago I carried out a flirtatious relationship with a co worker. I was in my early twenties and he was funny and cute and paid attention to me. We never ultimately dated, but we wasted a lot of time flirting. We both went on to date other people and we are actually still friends today (he installed the pet door on my house a few years ago because he’s handy) but I think if we had actually dated/had a relationship, it would have ended and it would have made work hard. Me personally, when we break up I need as far away from that person as possible because otherwise it’s a disaster.
My only advice is to really know yourself and know how you may react if things don’t workout and you have to see that person each day.
@Copa my boyfriend was an Army brat and while he wasn’t totally raised overseas, he spent about 6 years living in Germany. He was born there and lived there for about 2 years and then lived there again for a few years from I think 3rd through 7th grade. He definitely is curious about the world around him and loves traveling!
I know I couldn’t date a coworker (but haven’t been truly attracted to any either). However in the “olden” days (jk jk) isn’t that where people met their spouses? And I guess it worked out? Anyway I am excited for you @TheLadyE! Keep us posted however much you want.
As for Panera… idk since I’m in Canada and it’s here but I don’t know the context. Aren’t first online dates just coffee or drinks? But I guess maybe I’m a bit of a snob and would prefer an indie coffee shop or bar over a chain.
Going to Panera for a first date is weird, I’m just gonna say it. Old people go there for breakfast. Moms with babies go there for lunch. It’s not in any way a good choice for a first date. Yes, a first date should be quick and just for drinks (or I guess coffee, though that’s not my thing), but a Panera is so lame/brightly lit/loud/not conducive to get-to-know-you conversation.
Super weird place for a date. I cannot think of something less sexy or romantic. My mom and I go there on Sundays for coffee and pound cake before shopping. Also,I know I’ll get blasted for this but I don’t give a Crud, cheap ass date.
A drink would cost the same and not seem so, going on a date with grandma.
Panera for a first date may be less weird in some areas in the country…? I’m not sure. I live in a large city with no shortage of great food and drinks. If someone suggested Panera for the first date, I’d find it off-putting and be super unimpressed. But then I remember the area I went to grad school in, and there weren’t a ton of options (college town surrounded by farms — without the university, that area would be nothing). My boyfriend at the time and I definitely did Panera dates, but we were also like 24 (standards have changed since!) and not for our first date.
@K I didn’t spend my entire childhood overseas (middle and high school only), but yeah, I do find it weird when people don’t seem curious at all about other people, cultures, how they live, seeing really cool ancient sites, trying new foods, etc. I don’t know that it’s fair that I do this because, again, I know how lucky I was/am, but I admittedly *am* a bit surprised when someone tells me they’ve never left the country.
Enough with all the negativity. LadyE is old enough to know the risks in dating a coworker. Please respect her choices.
LadyE, I work in large tech companies and many here date coworkers (both successfully and unsuccessfully). Large companies do offer the anonymity not possible in smaller companies. So good luck to you.
A lot of people still meet through work. Proximity+attraction, it happens. I met my husband at work. I also successfully dated one or two coworkers before all that without things getting weird or awkward with a breakup. It can be okay. Not always, but it is possible.
A lot of people can’t afford to travel, even stateside. A lot of people can’t afford to travel overseas and become defensive when questioned why they haven’t, and make various excuses about why. An awful lot of people with the financial means to travel are still close minded bigots (think of the majority of far right republicans who have helped fund heir trump, and are now reeping the benefits, for example.)
