DW Community Catch-up Thread
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My favorite thing about this thread is that when I click on the thread name in the General Chat forum, instead of clicking on the page number, it automatically loads to the last comment on the first page of this thread. @Moneypenny’s comment — “Well, I’ve gone on some bad dates lately, does that count?” — makes me chuckle every time.
Did someone call my name? Haha.
OMG, I went on so many terrible dates in 2015-2016. So many dates that I thought had promise and then… didn’t. I learned a lot in that time, that’s for sure.
When I click on the thread, it always takes me to the top of the very first page!
@shakeourtree, I’m so sorry for your loss.
@shakeourtree, I am sorry for your loss.
Three years ago I got called to the bar, searched/started a new job where I am still, started seriously online dating, and the Blue Jays were having a really hot summer! It’s been amazing reading about everyone’s experiences.
I live in the far northern suburbs of NYC but it doesn’t feel like suburbia, because there are lots of great villages and small cities each with their own character, and there’s lots of green space and scenery. @ktfran, Bozeman, MT is awesome! I love other small cities like Burlington, VT and Portland, ME as well, and could be happy living in a place like that. I am not at all a big city person. Rural life appeals to me depending on where it is. Like living in a rural area of VT – hell yes. Living in Kansas – no.
Woah, three years on this thread! Not gonna lie, this is always the first thing I check in on when I go to Dear Wendy.
During the span of this thread I had short, ill-fated relationship with a manipulative lesbian; another short, ill-fated relationship with a fire fighter (who turned out to be a borderline alcoholic cheater, though I didn’t find that out until after things fizzled) and started dating Banjo, which has been the most mature and supportive relationship I’ve been in. It’s been a wild ride.
Also, does anyone remember the Awful Dates Thread? It was basically just like this one and I also followed it religiously until we switched over to this new one.
What’s worse than living in Kansas? Having to drive through Kansas to get to Colorado. WORST. DRIVE. EVER.
Ugh Kansas. No. Also worst drive ever. A tornado was behind me and a tree branch went through my grill. I basically speed the hell out of that state.
I could really live without Illinois though. Once i leave this state I am NEVER coming back.
So, I think I’ve mentioned this on here before, but a buddy of mine from law school reaches out about once/year or so to try to date. We got back in touch when I moved here several years ago, but I stopped trying to be friends after a bit because I was a heartbroken mess and he always brought the conversation back to dating. ANYWAY, this morning I woke up to a message from him asking me how Bumble is treating me. Oy vey. Debating if I should respond to ask him to please, just stop.
I’ve had a few law school acquaintances do this. It drives me nuts that they all lead with dating apps. Can’t they just say, “It’s been awhile. Why don’t we catch up over a drink?” Or something, ANYTHING, that reads less like, “I’m striking out on apps and therefore assume you are, too–let’s pair off!”
Copa, did you text him back?
So, I’m officially back on Tinder. Downloaded the app again, even paid for tinder plus. Already have a few matches, we’ll see how it goes.
Didn’t respond to him. I want to because I find it so annoying — this has been going on for years! — but he’ll get the message if I ignore. It’s kinda funny cause he and the other guys who have sent me similar messages are all still friends. I wonder if they know they’re all doing the same thing to the same person? There’s only one reaching out consistently, though.
Bumble Guy and I are grilling at his place tomorrow! He even invited my dog to come over and run in his yard, which I thought was really nice! He has a heavy work travel schedule in August so I guess we’ll see how that shakes out.
I also no longer think Neighbor is moving, which is really disappointing. I saw him rearranging his furniture last week. Bah. My anxiety about run-ins has gotten better, but it’s still there. Friday I came home from dinner at maybe 10 and he was blasting EDM music, and I could still hear it with my TV on. So if anyone was wondering if he’s still 30 going on 19, the answer is yes.
How long is the anxiety over run ins supposed to last?
For me, it’s been over a year of my breakup with my coworker and I still get super anxious. Like when I came back from vacation and ran into him last week I wanted to throw up and all, that kind of bad. I have to admit that up until 4-5 months ago, I still talked to him though. So there’s that. I no longer talk to him but we at least say hello to each other.
It’s hard because sometimes I see him from a distance and I think to myself that he is just a stranger now after being so important to me for so long. Anyways.
