DW Community Catch-up Thread
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You might want to have a temperature-taking conversation with him to try and find out if you’re on the same page.
I’d do what Kate recommends. He could just be one who doesn’t see his friends much, especially with the travel he does. I know I didn’t when I traveled a lot. I also never really arrange meet ups with friends just at some point bring them along to an event significant others are attending. But it could be a red flag. Or he’s just moving slower than you are. Worth getting a feel of which though.
Just checking in after the holidays. I’m so happy they’re finally over, but it’s been rough getting back into the swing of things at work. My boyfriend and I broke up just before Christmas, so I’m single again. Nothing dramatic; it just wasn’t working. So I guess it’s back to dating in 2019
@shakeourtree Sorry to hear about you and your boyfriend! Hope you’re doing well. You can vent here if you need to! I can’t really recall if it was something newer or an LTR, but it sucks either way for it to happen around the holidays.
Today is my first day back at work and I’m regretting not requesting the rest of this week off. I went to my parents’ house in another state for a bit while I was off work, and it was difficult (parents are divorced but insist on living together, hating each other). Then came back here and felt like I had nonstop holiday activity for my boyfriend’s friends/family. That much socializing (with people I don’t know well, no less) was exhausting for me!
My work pants are tight so I am doing Whole 30 this January. Had great results last time I did it a few years ago.
Ugh, my jeans that were loose in
Nov now fit right, and the skinnier jeans I could fit into and wear comfortably are now too tight. I’m back on Fitbit and T-25 workouts. May cut out booze too, why not.I stepped on the scale this a.m. It was not a good idea. Already got through an hour of yoga this a.m. and am about to get a run in. Luckily I always meal prep and such for the week but with husband home, lots of eating out, holiday meals plus all the cookies and chocolate in my house, it has been a bit out of hand. Luckily I have had zero desire to drink lately so that one is an easy fix. I also have planned to get on better track (kick it up a notch) starting new year due to our plans to be pregnant soon enough so i am as healthy as I can be going in but that scale kicked my butt further into gear.
@alafair, just saw your post — your guy travels a lot, right? I can’t quite recall, but it seems like you’ve had at least a couple pretty long stretches apart. I’ve dated my fair share of guys who travel for work and I’ve found my emotions build more slowly with those guys than the ones I’m able to see more of. And as far as friend intros go, how often does he see his friends? If you go maybe a month or so back in this thread, I lamented that I was bringing my guy around my friends but had only met one of his. But then realized that HE doesn’t see his friends as often as he’d like because they’re almost all newlyweds with babies who moved out to the suburbs. (He brought me around to different holiday events and I am actually overwhelmed by how many friends he has – HA! – and even the friends he’d never even mentioned to me knew exactly who I am.) Anyway, everyone’s different, but some food for thought before you panic too much!
I was debating between dry January and Whole 30 (also dry, but gets pretty restrictive with other foods and beverages) and settled on Whole 30. I went to a New Year’s Day party yesterday, and chowed down on veggie sticks and water. I thought I’d have a harder time declining, but it was actually super easy because I reached my limit with treats and booze.
@alafair….
I’m still meeting some of the husband’s friends. It’s crazy! He was groomsmen in a wedding last year to someone I had never met! He just doesn’t see them often. Actually, if you go back and read the this forum post from the beginning, I posted about a freak out I had when the husband and I were about six months in. He had met most of my friend’s and family and even traveled to my hometown. I had only briefly met his mom and aunt for lunch one day. We had a big discussion about it and within two weeks, he was setting things up so I could meet more people. So, what I originally mistook for a lack of interest was truly circumstance.
So, if this is important to you, I’d say something. Talk about it.
I drank a decent amount (2 ciders and 2 small glasses of wine) on NYE and I woke up 3# over where I was the day before with a total of 7# over the week prior. Happy to report, going back to my normal eating routine I’m down 3 of those 7 so I’m up only 4#. By next week I should hopefully have dropped those 4#.
This Christmas was hard to stay on track. We have had his kids with us for a prolonged period of time, and they bond over food. I’ve been able to keep dropping back down but I’m really looking forward to the kids being gone so we can get back to normal. We actually had a couple LIVING with us, and that was easy to mitigate. But having the other 2 visiting made it hard on my stomach. Last one leaves in 5 days….not that I’m counting.
Our kid comes home on Monday. Not excited about the attitude that comes back after seeing mom. Always takes a week or more to get him back to normal. Mom likes to be the fun parent while complaining she can’t afford a 6 dollar a paycheck vision plan she is court ordered to have. But she takes him to five theme parks while he visits. He started a job and is back at school so I know it’ll be drama. He wants to work but already slacked in the two weeks he did work before leaving on school work so I know it’ll be a drama. Not turning in homework and what not. Dad will say he can’t work if he doesn’t do school work and tantrum to follow. He cracks us up because he keeps saying “i need this job”. Huh? Why? Apparently he has bills we aren’t aware of ?Not excited about that. Hoping it doesn’t go that way but it will. I’m glad he got a job, just because he should do something other than play video games all night and weekend but I see this becoming a regular argument. Fingers crossed here. Plus I can’t lie my cleaning has drastically reduced without a teenager around. Haha. Will be happy to see him of course and have our house back to it’s normal routine.
One thing I wasn’t prepared for when his adults kids moved in – running the dishwasher once or twice a day. Growing up I feel like it ran every other day. We didn’t share food, so we were all preparing our own meals so that caused a high dish count. We hosted everyone for NYE and I ran the dishwasher that night, again the next day to get everything and then I haven’t run it since. It *MIGHT* get run today. Depends on if we eat in or out. The one kid was good on making sure it got ran, and emptying it about every other time. Then she got a job and that stopped. So I’m curious to see what happens in their new living arrangement with their cleaning. FMH and I are pretty clean folks, but we have 12 and 17 years on them. Their all in their early 20s and just learning adulting.
