DW Community Catch-up Thread
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I’ve never made a big deal for Valentine’s day, even in a couple. A couple years ago my exboyfriend cooked dinner for me and that was the first and only time that he cooked and that we did something.
This year I think I’ll send funny stuff to my friends, like chocolates or such, and I’ll lay low.This whole incident with the video has been too much and has reinforced my idea of taking a break from dating and anything that is close to dating.
In my past relationships, Valentine’s Day has always been acknowledged but never a big deal. Dinner out, maybe a small gift (though I think gifts are unnecessary). I’m not sure what BG and I will do, but we actually did talk about going to a nice steakhouse. I told him bluntly we don’t need to make a big deal about it, it’s just any ol’ Thursday to me and we can “celebrate” by doing the nice steakhouse thing on a night that won’t be packed, too, if that’s easier with our schedules. I find weeknight dates out can get stressful for us between our schedules and my dog, so I’d rather go out the weekend before or after if we’re trying to do something that’s a little more special than our norm.
I kind of hate a big Valentine’s with the crowds so I usually cook something at home and at the very least get a card and a bottle of wine. Last year I bought my husband a Tumi wallet as his was at the end of it’s life span. I don’t expect anything really, especially something fancy but of course appreciate and enjoy getting a gift. Last year husband was flying out to move me out the day after V day and forgot to get me a card or anything. I wasn’t upset but ribbed him a bit about it so he knows just receiving a card is something I want. Actually, for all holidays I am totally fine without a gift but really just want a card. I’d rather someone wrote something nice above an object. I also have the rest of my stuff being shipped to arrive on Valentine’s day so I think my gift is finally having the rest of my stuff, which actually is exactly what I wanted! I am 100% anti paying for storage units when not necessary but where we would end up was so in the air we were waiting to move things just to pay to move them a month later. Now that we know we will be here for at least another year and a half I finally am getting it. Luckily the storage place was insanely cheap but it has been pure torture to be spending money on that. So wasteful. Counting the days though! Can’t wait to fully decorate this house and have the rest of my clothes. I feel like I have been living in a frat house haha.
Our first anniversary is a month later so that is when we will do something. I think we are going to go get a couples massage and go somewhere nice for lunch or dinner, assuming son is in town (it is his spring break). If he is at moms we may plan an overnight. I do want to get him something for that and am starting to think of something good.
I have my Toastmasters meetings Thursdays so I’ve already asked if we could celebrate on the weekend and he said “Yeah, I figured” in a nice way haha. His parents actually got him/us symphony tickets that weekend for Christmas so I guess that is our date and we will go out for dinner before.
Last year I asked for a card which he knocked out of the park 🙂 We went to the local planetarium which does a public thing every Wednesday and Valentine’s fell on a Wednesday last year. It’s nice to acknowledge but not a big thing for me.
Mmhmm a plus side to him having two weeks off is that even though I’m still stressed from work on a weeknight he is more relaxed and can stay over. I’m in a rush in the morning but it’s nice to get a feel of that.
I didn’t know there was a fitness ring, but I love my Fitbit and it keeps me fit and the size I want to be. Been using it for 4 or 5 years. It’s not really waterproof so I wonder about a ring and washing hands. I like the wristband.
I saw the ring recently and thought it was interesting. I have been using my Fitbit for about the same amount of time 4 years or more. I bought it initially as a user friendly HR monitor due to my issues. Now that the heart rate is more calm (although really not today as I am in misery) I wear my Apple watch more as it does more but is not nearly as accurate on HR. My cardiologist tested my Fitbit against his equipment and said it was just about spot on.
Ugh i am so annoyed with my husbands pool league right now. He just received a text that they have a tournament this weekend. They take up the entire day, for three days (well Friday night). I don’t even understand how this isn’t planned in advance, what would they do if too many people couldn’t make it, they depend on those people to win. So stupid. And there go our weekend plans. Plus, they are saying up to 5″ this weekend on top of the roads currently being hell and I don’t want him driving in that at all! Grrr. Why is day drinking so frowned upon, let alone day drinking alone? Is it alone if the dogs are home? As grandma says, it’s 5p.m. somewhere!
I am the same, don’t make V-day a big deal. I have done small things over the years with other people, but never grand gestures or big nights out.
My BF asked if I wanted to do anything this year and I said no, would prefer to do a big dinner etc for our anniversary and spend the money there (2 years in July!! waaaat).
There is a public art event happening the week of V-day, so it looks like we might go out for that.
V-day is 2 weeks after our dating anniversary and 1 week before my boyfriend’s birthday, so we usually don’t go out to dinner for V-day specifically. In the past he’s gotten me flowers and I’ve gotten him some of his favorite treats, or something like that.
I honestly forgot v-day is even coming up. We pass on the celebrations. He would love to make a big mushy deal about it, I prefer we just show that love daily.
@hfantods Yeah, weekday overnights can be stressful for me. My dog and I usually spend at least one night of the weekend at his place, but during the week, I don’t wanna deal with getting up in time to get my dog home and myself ready before work. I’m someone who pushes her weekday morning routine to its limits. BG travels frequently during the week, but when he’s home, he works remote and his start time early. So we actually only did our first weekday sleepover last night! I was a little nervous about the morning, and would I be scrambling and cranky, but we got to drink our coffee together at the table. It was nice! My dog is basically beside himself with emotions when BG goes home and it’s really sweet.
I am so very glad that I’m not the only one! I don’t like Valentine’s Day crowds; most of the time it makes me sad because there’s always some couple who can barely look at each other eating silently, or when you can tell they just dont like each other anymore. I told the AG he makes me feel wanted every day and that’s enough; buy me something silly if he feels like he needs to. On his last work trip he went to Vienna and brought me back a ridiculously painted cowbell – I love the thing more than the “serious” gift he bought me. I guess its because he saw something, thought it would make me smile and got it for no other reason? He still looks at me like I’m an alien sometimes though.
