DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Also, @Fyodor, you might enjoy comedian Bill Engvall’s story of when he had to buy his teenage daughter pads: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GjTR44Os6aM
If there’s a comedy reference to a subject, I’ll probably know it. 😉
Alright folks, my boyfriend helped me plunge my toilet recently. Firstly I felt inept as an adult human being but also it was embarrassing. However we both plunged in good cheer haha.
So this weekend I asked BG when his next HOA meeting is because we need to get a real answer about my dog living there. It hasn’t been scheduled yet (they are quarterly), but it now seems he is now leaning a bit more toward finding something new together. His upstairs neighbors have a 10-month-old, and we didn’t hear anything at first, but now that the baby is getting older and more active, the noise is pretty constant, and he knows it’s just going to be louder and louder/more and more as the baby grows. He works remote a couple days/week and he said it’s frustrating during the workday. I think that plan would push our timeline out, but it’s my preference so I’m ok with that if that’s the route we take.
I’m going to be a cold, PiTA lawyer here*, but if you buy together before getting married, get some sort of contract covering how it’ll be handled if you break up.
*The not-yet-Bride-oF-Fyodor and I did this before we moved in together. Even though things worked out, I’m glad that I did it.
Bit of a small vent. Been cruising around the hookup/dating apps to find people to explore my kinks and D/s lifestyle with (this is a new thing, finally taking the time to explore this area with experienced people, so far so good). I was chatting with someone and last week we had planned to meet but do to a bad snow storm our plans got cancelled. Let him know the same day my availability for next week (as he mentioned we should reschedule to then), and never got anything from him about his availability! I casually reached out to him on the Friday asking how his week was, and he mentioned saving some of our conversation for our drinks. Still didn’t get any availability from him that day, or on the weekend, or this week. He finally messaged me today and apologized for the long wait that I should message him over whatsapp and that he got drunk last night for his BD, and was scattered. Basically told him, thanks but no thanks, you never got back to me about meeting this week, and still haven’t told me your availability,I am not interested anymore. He responds by telling me that it is strange I interpreted his lack of communication the way I did and just said goodbye. Lord, are men this dense? I mean he is 31 for god sake, why would he not be understanding that leaving me hanging for a week with no communication of re scheduling be appropriate? Gah, makes me dread going back into dating in the near future.
That’s frustrating, @Cleo! Even if the sites you’re on right now are designed for more casual encounters (just assuming!), you’d think basic courtesies would still apply. BUT, I’m glad to hear you’re exploring this area of your sexuality in a way you couldn’t with your ex and hopefully feeling better about your break-up.
@copa, honestly it has been so liberating exploring it. I have been cautious seeing as that community has received a bad rep in the past (understandably with certain people tainting the pool), but it has been fun. I am still pursuing counselling as a way to help myself grow and get through my own insecurities that came out in my last relationship. So over all, both have really helped me grow and learn more about me. Not getting into serious dating any time soon, not ready. But when I do I hope to have a more concrete idea as to what I need from a partner.
My partner and I got to see Trevor Noah (from the Daily Show) live! It was an amazing show. Even the two opening comics rocked. The only hella awkward thing was right before the show. The venue has a food court that was packed. We finally found what seemed to be the only available table in the place only to discover his ex at the very next table. It had been eight years and they’re on friendly terms, so it’s not really a big deal, but still, it’s a small, awkward world.
Speaking of comics, I wonder what y’all think about this: I have tickets to see Kathleen Madigan (an awesome comic) in a couple Saturdays. My boyfriend’s schedule tends to fluctuate based on work etc, so I usually don’t tell him things too far in advance as a result. I just realized I have those tickets and mentioned them to him. He may or may not be able to make it, but he said Kathleen Madigan is his sister’s favorite and she “may end up going” as well.
So…hmm. I bought my tickets 20 minutes after they went on sale back in October and I still had to get seats on the balcony. I doubt there are any left.
I’ve met his sister twice: once briefly at a tailgate and then I spent Thanksgiving with his family at her home. She’s a vet. She’s 10 years older than I am and seems really nice. I would love for her to come with me if he can’t (though I would prefer if he did, of course!), but I would be nervous! How would you approach (or would you?) approach asking him/her? Is it too soon for us to spend time together without him? (10 months in?)
I would probably just let it go, UNLESS he says he can’t make it. Then you could say oh, so, I have this extra ticket, do you think your sister would like to go with me? Want to check if she’s free that night? Then he can ask her and if she’s not comfortable with it she can say she has plans.
Right? Because otherwise then you’re saying, oh, so, I got these tickets 3 months ago, I can’t get another one, but how about if I go with your sister instead of you? Think she’d rather go than you? Then he has to be like, yeah, she’d totally rather go than me, let me tell her. And if she doesn’t feel like going, it’s awkward.
Re: his comment that she “might come with us,” I’d be like, oh cool. And leave it at that. Let him figure out her ticket. My first priority would be figuring out if HE can even come. If he can’t, you could also just decide to ask a friend.
Why would you be nervous if you went with just her? 10 months is just… 10 months. It’s not too soon to hang out with his sister, and it’s also not so long that it’s like, I’m going to marry this man and I need his sister to like me. It’s really low stakes.
Yeah, I did just what you said: I said “oh cool, that would be awesome if she came!” and left it at that. I mean obviously I would rather go with him but if he can’t and this is her favorite comic it would be fun to go with her and get to know her.
I’ve just never been at this point in a relationship before so I wanted to check.
