DW Community Catch-up Thread
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Oh it’s not like I’ll never date again. I will probably, I just want to wait until I get my results back. I decided to get tested for everything. But it did make me feel blue and down because I didn’t expect it.
I had to contact my ex boyfriend to tell him to get checked.Related to dating:
Last night my puppy gave a low bark at 1:45am and stood up on the bed. I thought he had to poop, but my husband (who doesn’t wear earplugs) was like, “no, he heard something.” Then I heard it too, someone was banging SUPER hard and violently on the front door of the building. This is a locked, glass door inside an unlocked vestibule where the mail is.
I’m like, omg, call 9-1-1, and he’s putting his clothes on like, i have to see what’s going on. I’m thinking, no you don’t, just call. So he goes to the front window and it’s this skinny white grad-student-looking guy SCREAMING at the top of his lungs (I could hear the screaming but not the exact words), cunt this and whore that. He was going from one door to the other on the far side of the courtyard banging violently and screaming for some woman that he probably wanted to kill. I was legit scared, like what if he smashes in the door before the police get here. Credit to them, they were there in a few minutes with 4 big cops. Can you imagine if that’s the guy you’re dating? My husband said he trashed the vestibule and threw the mail all over and it reeked of alcohol.
They actually took him away in an ambulance, not sure wtf. I hope they arrested him.
Ale, I had them check me for everything else too. I had just started dating my husband and it had been like 6 months since I hooked up with my co-worker. My husband got checked too because we were going to obviously have a sexual relationship. Neither of us had anything. You’re probably fine, but yeah, good to get the full testing done.
I went to happy hour with a couple of girlfriends the other night. One told us she’s once again seeing the guy she was dating last summer — they were not exclusive but had discussed sexual exclusivity and things ended when he told her she needed to get checked for chlamydia because he had a few other partners. We asked how/when, and it was actually last fall, she’d been too embarrassed to tell us because of how upset she was last summer and because they got back together after she literally went to his house drunk in the middle of the night and spray painted “[NAME] HAS CHLAMYDIA” on his fence. OMFG. And she was like, “Well I’m only telling you guys because good friends don’t judge.” But no, I’m judging. That’s messed up and I think they’re both being stupid to give it another go.
Well you are supposed to tell your former partners when you get diagnosed. She was being responsible.
Wow. That is batshit crazy and sooo like, i don’t even know, puritanical slut shaming? to publicly call someone out for having an STI, much less with vandalism. What a psycho.
Yeahhh, her drinking and substance use have gotten out of control the past year, like she makes horrible choices and then feels awful and embarrassed. When I saw her in September, right after they ended things, it was a bigger group from college + SOs and she kept crying at the table, in front of everyone, because she was coming down from a coked up weekend with this guy. And kept disappearing to the bathroom, I think to snort more. She finally got into therapy and I hope she’s bringing this stuff up in there because it’s gotten out of control. Like she was the type to send a scorched earth text to a guy who has rejected her before, but this is legit unstable behavior. And this relationship, or whatever it is they’re doing, it’s not going to end any better when it ends again.
She needs help. Not just therapy but addiction services.
I have a former co-worker who lost both her adult children (in their 30s) within 3 years of each other from overdoses. Her son did coke laced with a tiny bit of fentanyl.
Just a comment on the HPV. @Ale if you haven’t already you should watch Ali Wong’s first Netflix special Baby Cobra. She has a small bit about HPV, about how everyone has it and if you don’t have it you’re gonna get it. She’s hilarious.
Do you know they don’t even test men for HPV unless requested? She mentions that too, how it’s a ghost or something that comes out of the man and says BOO! I don’t remember it exactly but super recommend and hopefully makes you feel a bit better.
I had to call my ex and tell him and I think I got it from him, since he is the only person I’ve had unprotected sex with.
He felt like shit and told me that he always used a condom “with the others”. And I was like what others? And he confessed he cheated on me a couple times. And also he cheated on me with his married “best friend” that took him to Cancun for his 30th birthday. I was always told that they were only friends and I was a possessive jealous bitch. The gaslighting they BOTH did was massive.
Anyways, I finally know the truth and that I wasn’t crazy for thinking that friendship was weird, two fucking years after we broke up. I posted about them a couple of times here.
I felt down for some time but then relieved. And decided to pause a little on the dating until I get the thing removed, some other medical stuff sorted out and all my test la resulta back.He also told me that he wants to be friends and see if maybe we can get back together. The audacity. I’m still laughing.
Omg Ale. You didn’t have to call him. A text was way more than enough for that asshole. Please don’t ever contact him again. Pleas take better care of yourself than this.
