Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy and that your SIL is continuing to be a pain in the ass. I think your inclination to just avoid her is correct since she’s never going to be the kind of SIL you’d want to have. And, unless there is a vaccine, there’s no way I’d go to *Disney World* for a *wedding* – that’s just bananas at this point. Also, not for nothing, but I’d probably be wary of getting the vaccine while pregnant, even if there is one, since I doubt they’ll have time to do a rigorous study on how it effects pregnant women and fetuses by April. All of which is to say that your SIL may just have to deal with the fact that you’re not going to her wedding.

As for fun celebration ideas: if the weather holds, what about a picnic? You could get food to go and go to a park or waterfront and enjoy the day socially distant without being at home. Or, if there’s a place to rent a boat for the day nearby, that’d get you doing something different, but still be away from crowds of people.

Very sorry to hear about your chemical pregnancy and that you have to bear that grief on top of everything else that is happening.

WRT the sister in law no one is in any position to make commitments to (A) Get on an airplane to go to (B) a public gathering at this stage. It’s a completely ridiculous request. There is also a very real chance that either the airline or disney world will go out of business and Also, if you think that there’s some chance that you’ll be pregnant that adds another layer to it.

Sigh, Veritek, I’ve said it before I think, but your SIL is being so ridiculous and is so out of touch. Does your husband correct her when she says things like that about you? I’d be so sick of her bs victimhood, I’d call her out if I were him. (If I were you I’d be doing just what you’re doing- staying out of it!) On top of that, it doesn’t make ANY sense to be making plans right now for anything!
I’m really sorry as well about your chemical pregnancy. I’m sending you a hug!

Oof, she sounds like someone I’d want to avoid for sure. Frankly, if I were to have a screaming match with my parents and call them unsupportive, I know my mother would slap me across the face. I know it’s easier said than done to stand up to someone who is being a bully, especially within your own family- because that’s what she is, a bully- but this is so dysfunctional. Staying away is probably all you can do, until she starts yelling at you to your face, and then I’d say you’re within your rights to yell back. 😛

Happy thread-iversary! I missed the first few years of this thread but safe to say I was going on bad dates with the rest of you. Honestly seems pretty weird still that I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for two years. It’s flown by.

@veritek I’m sorry to hear about your pregnancy and hope you are doing ok. Your SIL sounds like a nutcase, as usual. A screaming match with her parents sounds like something a spoiled 13-year-old would do, not a woman who is old enough to be getting married. I can’t recall her age, but isn’t she like 30 or something!? Ridiculous. I’d probably avoid her, too. She’s also the only person I’ve heard of to act like a global pandemic is only affecting her in this way. Literally everyone else I know whose big plans were put on pause or had to be seriously altered — and there are quite a few of those people at this point — have been pretty disappointed, sure, but they’ve all handled it like adults. Even with a bit of humor in most cases!

And happy anniversary! A lot of our at-home date nights are cooking (now that it’s warm, grilling) and boozing these days since we’re still spending quite a lot of time at home. He has a backyard, so we’ll do dinner out back on nice nights. I’ve mentioned this on the COVID thread, but in maybe early April, we got a book called How to Cocktail and have had fun making our own cocktails. This weekend we’re hoping to do a long bike ride.

Brief relationship update on my end. My boyfriend now seems pretty set on selling his condo in the next couple months. We haven’t decided our own next step — he might buy something new that gives us more space or we might rent. We’re actually going to look at a couple condos with his old realtor tonight. But everything is up in the air at this point so it’s looking like I’ll be signing another shorter-term lease on my place. And I’m okay with that. When it hit me that I’m not going back to the office anytime soon, I got nervous about giving up my place. We’ve had relatively few issues spending as much time together as we have the past few months, but it’s been nice to have my place to go back to if one of us wants a little solo time. And talking to friends who haven’t had that option at all, I’m grateful for it.

How’s everyone else? @Moneypenny? @hfantods? @TheHizzy are you still around!? …@MissDre!?

I’m sorry for your loss, Veritek. Your SIL is out of order and it’s disappointing to me that her family enables her to behave so badly. I am sorry you have to deal with her shit.