Covid Support Thread
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When I joined my Monday morning department meeting this morning, I think I caught the tail end of my boss telling another coworker that it wouldn’t be long. I assume he meant return to work, but didn’t catch the full conversation. We’re going full steam ahead with our plans for a June event we always host , almost always in Wisconsin, which has been way more lax than where I am. Super curious how it’s going to go. I’m fine going but plan to mask up. A meeting I was in last week, people spent the last 20 or so minutes arguing back and forth about WFH vs remote preferences and whether or not it’s time to relax a bit and I found the entire thing grating to listen to.
I finally ventured out a bit this weekend for the first time since we dropped mask requirements a few weeks ago. My salon is still requiring masks, but I forgot when I booked the appt that it fell on the day my city celebrates St. Patty’s and, being in a lively neighborhood that skews younger, everything nearby looked like chaos. I went to brunch yesterday and dropped by Sephora after and while neither required masks, I’d say about half opted in.
Ew, ok, so a little ways back I told about this guy who’s a friend of my husband, whose wife passed away literally 14 months ago from pancreatic cancer. And he’s getting married this spring. And moved to her country (where he’s originally from), leaving his kids behind.
So we just got the invitation to one of the weddings – apparently there are two – in Munich. It is the most tacky thing. On the front it has embossed dates 1999 – 2022 with an infinity symbol. Because they were together in the 90s and then there was that whole 20+ years when he was married and had kids and his wife died of the worst kind of cancer. We’re just forgetting that whole thing. It’s got a stamp that’s a photo of the two of them. It has some tacky font. It talks about celebrating their love in a very special way, with a festival of the senses and a magical party, and outfit changes. They want the guests to wear traditional Bavarian attire in the afternoon and then change to evening clothes.
We are not going. We don’t think anyone is, including his kids. His longtime friend who is my husband’s boss is going to the other wedding, but his wife just put her foot down and said no even though she’d love to go to France.
To be clear, I have no problem with someone dating again after being widowed. But don’t have two flamboyant weddings and abandon your kids ffs.
Next week I’m going to San Diego for a rowing regatta because why not, I can just hang at the hotel and drink cocktails. This guy is going because he’s in the boat. As a special moment, here is the message he sent to the other guys on the team. Gross.
“Dear all,
FYI, many of you met my former wife three years ago at the Crew Classic. You might also know that she then passed away after battling pancreatic cancer. Now to the reason I am sending you a note.
After quite a few years of hardship on the personal side, something magical happened to me last year. By chance, I met the woman again who was indeed the love of my life some 30 years ago. It wasn’t meant to be at the time, but it does today. M and I will get married on June 3rd near Munich, and I have already moved my base to Germany, maintaining my professorship in Canada for the next five years.
So why am I telling you all this?…well, M will join me in San Diego and I wanted to make you aware.
See you all next week
Cheers and beers
A”
All kinds of WTF, Kate. That is so sad for his kids. And so bizarre to edit his recently deceased wife and mother of his children (that he also apparently wants to forget) out of his life. What a weirdo.
Fuck. My brother in law is in the hospital with a partially collapsed lung. I’m sure it’s Covid-related.
He got it about two months ago. He went on a hunting trip with friends. One of the friends was sick so didn’t go. They invited another to take his place. This mother fucker went knowing he had Covid and didn’t tell anyone. BIL and another dude got it a couple days later.
The only reason we found out this one asshole had it is because his wife posted on FB.
People fucking suck.
That’s horrible! Do they know his prognosis?
Sounds like at a minimum he’d have to be on oxygen… forever? Can a collapsed lung resolve itself or be repaired?
I don’t have the full details yet. Waiting to hear. My immediate family was up here for two of my nieces bdays. He and my sis and one niece were headed back when he said he needed to to to the emergency room. My mom, dad and other niece had left sooner so they’re headed back this way to pick up the second niece and take her back home.
I didn’t want to ask my sis too many Qs yet. Hopefully I’ll know soon. I just texted her and told her I’d get her a hotel room by the hospital if she wanted, they’re a couple hours outside the city.
So I don’t know it’s after effects from Covid, but I’d think it’s too coincidental not to be.
Hopefully the collapsed lung can be repaired ok, I believe they can be under certain conditions.
And Kate, omg. Former wife?! FORMER. WIFE. That’s something you call an ex, not someone who died. Like it’s no biggie, she was just formerly a person. That fucker. I’m livid at him and I don’t even know him.
Both of those situations really plumb the depths of humanity’s selfishness.
Right, he doesn’t say, “my late wife, G.” Or “my wife, G.” He doesn’t say her name. The last time we were on this trip, she was there. She was sick.
He’s going to be like, “oh, Kate and M can hang out while we’re at practice.” Hell no. Nothing against her, but she’s got to be an asshole too if she sees nothing wrong with this situation.
@Ktfran, I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope your BIL recovers smoothly. Ugh, I can’t believe that friend. So selfish.
@Kate, just ick.My workplace is also removing their mask mandate effective tomorrow, in line with provincial regulations. I get it. We can wear masks if we want. I think I might be more lax around the office but I’ll still wear masks with clients and ask they do the same. I think we’ve had 4 employees and one’s daughters get COVID over the course of the pandemic.
Omg. That’s so fucked up Kate. Wow. Yeah. I couldn’t hang with her. Anyone who is ok with someone abandoning their children is not a good person.
I guess the lung was only partially collapsed. I still don’t know the full story, but it seems air surrounded the lung making him not be able to breath. He’s stable. His lung is filling back with air like it’s supposed to. I don’t know what procedure they performed.
The husband was looking into it. It seems like this kind of thing can happen if there’s an injury, like from sports, or Covid, which is causing it to happen to a small percentage of people. And apparently, if it’s Covid-related, it’s happening to people with underlying conditions or young men who are tall and thin. The later fits the BIL. He’s like 6’2” or 3”, thin and pretty active.
Anyway, the news tonight is good.
Thanks for letting me freak out on here.
