@Ange and @Copa
I agree women in their 40s are not all week. Sometime age isn’t the issue but the health condition might be and one do not have to reveal it. It definitely seems like the company lacks leadership.
I agree with @Copa the job discription should have been more distinctive in job discription, its very cheeky to expect a Marketing/administrative head to give hands in un-related jobs, like it’s not worth the time.

@Anonymous guest says makes a good point, there should not be anymore arguments beyond “I am effin Marketing lead”.
@Lisforleslies you made such a simple argument I wish lot of people understood it.

Can’t speak for the whole of the world, but in most places all of those tasks would come under a union or job specific roles. You need training on how to move a water jet so that you don’t hurt yourself or damage the equipment. So if he and his colleagues are doing that, then they are potentially putting the company at significant financial and insurance risk.

I’m curious if your friend would say anything if the marketing lead was a man who didn’t move machinery around. Or if the marketing lead used crutches or a cane? When the job requires certain activities – say, a firefighter being able to carry an adult out of a building – then yes, a woman should be held to a minimum capability. However, that’s the nature of the job. A nurse doesn’t need to be able to breastfeed, a teacher doesn’t need to be able to menstruate, a marketing lead doesn’t need to be able to move a water jet. But he’s lumping all women into one basket using a sample size of fewer than 10 people. He’s a bit of a shit head. (and by bit I mean total).

It’s interesting you have physically hurt yourself to prove you aren’t weak. And no, I’ve never felt the need to do that to prove equality. I compete against myself. Do you mean to prove that women are as strong as men?

If you are taking the average size and strength of men across the world and compare them to women, the will average bigger and stronger, because men are built a bit leaner and musclier than women, we are different sexes of the same species. Of course none of our bodies are the same. Why do you listen to this horseshit?

Woman and men are equal does not men we need to be equal in size, strength, lifting strength, etc. I don’t know where you got this strange view of equality from.

All people should be treated equally because we are all human. Physical brute strength and everything else should be taken out of the equation. I do think you seem to bend yourself in knots to give your sexist men friends the benefit of the doubt more often than you don’t, from your post. I’m not sure how old you are, but if a man is telling you he and men are better than women for ANY reason, he’s sexist and not worth speaking to.

@Anonymousguest
I am 31, I do not do that anymore. It was in my 20s and I did not think that the equality meant I should be carrying equal load like a man. The competition with men or need to prove I am worthy began since I was kid (now that I looked back and analysed). I grew up with two younger brothers and I often used to hear from people tell my parents that they were lucky to have two sons who would take care of them blah blah blah. I always wondered why did they think I would not take care of my parents if needed as I was older. My mum doesn’t say it out loud but I know she feels proud to have given birth to two boys. My brothers are really kind, emphathetic and very smart, I went out of my way to prove to my parents too that I was worthy of the money that they were spending on my upbringing and etc. I went on to have graduation and post-graduation with student-loan from bank, and I chose an in-expensive university because I over heard my mother tell my father that he should think of my brother starting the university two after me and he can not be putting all the money on my education (we were economically struggling). I then went on and got my PhD which was fully-funded and paid off all my mortgage and even paid for my youngest brother’s university. So all this and I hear my relatives say to my parents oh! thats lucky, it likes you have three “sons”, I almost get sick hearing these.
And I was carrying more things (more than my capacity) around men not to prove my euqality in strength but just the point that I could handle things on my own, I now know it was silly I have un-learned it.
My younger brother recently got married and I helped him financially with the wedding (he paid me back the money), all my relatives could not believe it, instead they kept asking me if my brother had paid for my dress etc. When I lived with my parents and brother two years ago (briefly) I used to give my share of rent and my cousins had no idea about it so they would say oh! now you might be saving more as you are living off of your borther. My borther do not like that I am calculative but I need to be, to really keep myself out of the “pity” and guilt of even slightly depending on them.
Thanks for listenign and putting your thoughts on! I was torn to think my guy best-friend was sexist and I wanted to make sure I was not missing any point of angle that would give him benefit of doubt.

I’m sorry you’ve grown up with these ideas that women are inferior. You don’t have to live like this, or listen to that crap. You’re a grown adult now and you can choose what ideas you allow into life.

If this idea is still bothering you, I would consider therapy. Often, the core beliefs we make about ourselves as children a can and do affect us into adulthood. But they don’t have to. Find a therapist. Good luck.