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    October 7, 2022 at 2:28 pm #1116394

    I’m 28F. I’ve been going through therapy process for now 2 years. I’ve changed my counselor.
    it was our 2nd session and we started to talk about the relationships. I’m going to talk about my past with her on Sunday. it’s made me looking through the past but I realised I only have been going mostly on ONS. And mostly I met with guys online apps.

    it’s got me little worried that I’ve never had healthy relationship with someone. 2 times till now I had long relationships(2-3 years) and they were mostly long distance.
    Both were toxic.

    What would you suggest me in this point?
    I appreciate your helps and advices
    Thank you

    October 7, 2022 at 2:58 pm #1116396

    I mean, maybe there’s a reason, that you can uncover in therapy, why you’ve been avoidant about making a lasting, physically and emotionally present, connection with anyone. I’d recommend working on that.

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    October 7, 2022 at 3:30 pm #1116397

    I suppose I don’t know what you are in therapy for, but it sounds kind of odd that in two years with a prior therapist, your relationship history/patterns never came up. I suggest more therapy.

    October 7, 2022 at 3:49 pm #1116398

    I’ve become more aware and avoid the short lasting relationships. But thinking about the past today with those guys has made me anxious.

    I’ve recently change the therapist thinking maybe taking therapy with the previous therapist(27M) wasn’t very sufficient experience. I suppose he is new at the job and not very professional. Can’t deny he had affect on some point but wasn’t the best. Mostly started to feel like the last couple of months I’m talking to a casual friend.

    With the new one I took 2nd session yet and she is very good at awakening me about my anxieties, my childhood traumas, whats the missing things. Obviously lack of self love and confidence, obeying to people for aching love put me in those situations in the past for some time. it was then I was seeking for love but all I could get was simply sex.

    Thank you for the advices

    October 7, 2022 at 3:56 pm #1116399

    Therapy is exactly what this is for. It’s literally what you are paying for.

    October 11, 2022 at 6:03 am #1116483

    What do you want? Are you happy with one night stands? Do you want a long term relationship?

    Can’t give suggestions without knowing what you’re looking for.

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