Updates: “Former Student” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Former Student,” a recent college grad who had been hanging out with a former high school teacher and wondered if he wanted to be more than friends with her. “My mom thinks he wants to date me, [but] I can’t help but think it’s weird that a normal, sane, good guy in his 30s would have any interest in my unemployed self.” I told her it actually wasn’t all that weird for a hetero guy in his 30s to have interest of some sort in a 22-year-old woman. Keep reading to see if she’s still hanging with her former teacher.

Long story short: you were all right; he was interested in me and wanted to date me, but I had no interest in that. Also, I got a job which upped my self-esteem so that I no longer needed validation, which made it much easier to say “I’m flattered really, but I’m not interested.”



If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at wendy@dearwendy.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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    1. shortest update ever AND shortest wendy response ever (i think?)!

      1. Yeah I would like the short story long!

  1. TheOtherOtherMe says:

    Wow that was anti-climactic.

  2. Avatar photo MackenzieLee says:

    I want the long story long not short!!! Doesn’t the LW understand my need for ALLL the details?

    1. Obviously not… how terribly inconsiderate of the LW.

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