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He doesn’t want to. You are forcing this. Relationships shouldn’t be forced.
Like I said in a thread here months ago. Relationships are like farts. If you have to force them, then they’re shit.
Stop forcing this and giving him alternatives. This is over for him, he just doesn’t have the balls to admit it yet.
Well, a couple of months ago I had a conversation with my ex boyfriend regarding moving in together and marriage. One of his excuses for NOT doing that was that I didn’t like his music and he liked to play it loud and I didn’t like that. So that was one of the reasons why we were never going to make it living together. A couple weeks later he broke up with me.
My point is… If you love someone and you want to spend ther rest of your life with them and you even decided on that earlier, this kind of silly excuses wouldn’t be coming up. He’s just making excuses and talking nonsense with “needing time” and all of that crap. He’s had enough time. He just doesn’t want to do all of this with you. He doesn’t want to move with you.
Meanwhile, you are putting your LIFE on hold for him and for what? So he can call you unhealthy and fat? After all you’ve waited for him?
Oh no, dear no. Your life should be more important for you right now. You are a servant to this guy. You serve his wishes and needs. And you? Where’s your self esteem? Are you living for YOURSELF or for someone else?Can you imagine if you were this woman and saw a thread with over 40 posts in a forum about how you leaned on a towel once?
I hate being hit on the gym too. That’s why I just put on my cancelling noise headphones and don’t talk to anyone.
Everything has been said already and I think you have great advice here. I just want to say that this dude sounds like he is way too comfortable now and won’t get out of his comfort zone soon. And fuck that. He has his parents around, has you around, everything is close and near FOR HIM. Everything is easy for him. And what about you? He doesn’t care about what you want, as long as he is comfortable. Comfort sucks and you need to get out of there. This doesn’t mean that you’re not enough. It means that his comfort right now is way more important. I am bored just imagining him. Get out now that you can. This is never going to change. Take over your life. Like EES, you gave up your education for a dude that won’t even leave his town temporarily for you. I know it sucks, but you need to take control of your like right now, move and resume your education.
@lucia_la always has the best trips.
I am hangin in there. Ex boyfriend has not respected my space, we text every now and then but don’t see each other. Which is weird, but I try to keep myself busy and distracted. I like my new gym, parking sucks but it’s ok, it’s actually better than the other one. I’m feeling good actually, although weekends have been awful. So I’m dreading this coming weekend but I gotta toughen up.Yeah, I just ended uninstalling the app. I think it’s too soon to even see what’s out there.
When my first breakup happened I met a guy just three weeks later. He was very nice and good looking, funny too, and we started talking. He asked me out a couple times and then one day, I finally said yes. We went to a movie and the minute I sat down in the theater I panicked. I excused myself and went to the bathroom, stayed there for like 20 minutes just panicking, crying and being a mess. I contemplated seriously just leaving him there and never coming back. I even started walking towards the exit. But then, I just pulled myself together and went back to the movie. He thought I was sick haha, but he never knew that I was going to leave him there. It was way too soon for me to have a date. And that is what I think now, I almost panicked just browsing through Tinder one of this days.
That guy I almost ditched is one of my best friends now, I even introduced him to his now wife.@Copa, OMG. I’m also sad to see what’s out there really. I downloaded Tinder a couple days ago just to see what’s there and got a couple matches. But then I got a little discouraged (I mean, there’s people there that even have pics with their SO’s, because like, why bother?). So I uninstalled it.
I live in Costa Rica, not Europe. A DW getaway here would be a tropical one, including hot springs, white sand beaches and lots of monkeys.
@kmentthat that is a good advice, I know I will survive and I know I will be better. I’m just afraid of doing something stupid in this time. Thank you all.@kmentthat so glad to hear all about this. It sounds super romantic and also, relaxing.
As for me, they say time heals everything, but I am feeling worse with each day that passes. I’ve been crying all day at work (no one has seen me, I do it in hiding). And I just feel like crap and I also keep blaming myself. I need to find the anger again actually, I feel so guilty.
I already found a new gym however I am dreading going there. I am really anxious and I hate new things (like new jobs, new gyms, new whatevers). I want to work out and feel like I should, but I just hate the fact that I abandoned the one I knew and it’s all changes.And I’m never going back there.
