applescruffs
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My mom and I talked about this last night. She loves changing her name. She’s done it with every husband! She is pretty traditional (except for all the marriages) and thinks it’s nice to have the same name, although she’s not sure why. She asked how people would address mail to me and Boyfriend if we got married. I said, Apple Scruffs and Boyfriend Smith. Or the Scruffs-Smith family. But what if I want to use my doctorate? I said, I assume if it’s really formal someone could write Dr. Apple Scruffs and Mr. Boyfriend Smith. She just said, all this new etiquette…. Poor mom.
Alice, PLEASE take Dairyland as your family name!
Hmm, I’m going to see how long it takes for someone to use my last name, too. This will be a fun experiment! Although my friends do think it’s fun to call me Dr. Scruffs. …it kinda is.
Here’s a question. I hear people saying they wouldn’t get offended by being called Apple Husband’sname (for these purposes his last name is Smith, k?). But I feel like people should know my correct name. If they called me Pear instead of Apple, I would politely correct them. This doesn’t go for people like…waiters, or hotel clerks, etc. But if someone in a social situation, who I would see again, called me Pear, or Apple Smith instead of Apple Scruffs, I feel like I’d want to correct them. Not in a RARR way (although that’s kind of how it makes me feel), and not in a rude or condescending way, just in a, oh fyi, that’s actually not my name.
I had an ex that was really offended that I wouldn’t change my last name – to his or anyone’s. He also got a little offended when I referred to Hillary Clinton and Ms. Clinton instead of Mrs. Clinton…so go figure.
My official reason is I worked really hard to be Dr. Scruffs, and I want to keep it. Why would I let some girl named Apple Smith or whatever get all the credit? I don’t even KNOW Apple Smith! Plus my last name is unique, only a few people have it, blah blah blah.
The real reason? I don’t want to. Yeah, my dad gave me my last name, but he also gave me my first, and I certainly wouldn’t change my first name when I got married. Changing my last feels just as weird.
Luckily my boyfriend gives absolutely no shits about it. One night at a company dinner his boss was teasing us that he’d have to take my last name because I’m a doctor, blah blah. I said, “we’ll just both keep our last names.” Easy enough.
CNN->TheFrisky->DW.
