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@hfantods So glad to hear! Sometimes it takes a bit to really know. Cupcakes and dinner sound like a good low key idea for celebrating his birthday at this stage 🙂

I think I mentioned doing ziplining for my guys birthday this past weekend, ended up getting cancelled on account of high winds. So got my money back and told him to tell me if he wanted to do something else to replace the ‘gift.’ We ended up killing the extra time taking a walk along the river, as the colors are AMAZING here in Calgary. Such bright yellows! Not quite the same as Ontario fall colors, but still great 🙂 Then we went back to his place and made some tasty red thai curry.

We are co-hosting at his place a friends-giving this upcoming weekend. I am excited as it will be all my buds and lots of awesome food. I feel so adult 😛 Haha He managed to meet most of my friends on Friday as well for my get together, which also went really well! He was a bit quiet, but seemed to fit in when he could for the conversation.

@Courtney89 As much as I would be slightly irked by any of my bros dating one of my friends, I technically can’t tell them who they can and cannot date. I think it is free range. The brothers friends may even decline due to the connection if he isn’t comfortable, only one way to find out though eh?

WEES @hfantods Definitely sounds like he is enjoying his time with you and is making it known. No red flags there! I agree as well to take it date, by date, don’t rush into anything and make sure you are comfortable the entire time.

Met my guys friends this weekend. They were visiting from Ontario for a few days. I met up with them both Saturday and Sunday evening for dinner. They are definitely a crew! All have similar mannerisms and personalities. So it was interesting to see where some of his traits developed and came from. Both very nice people, although the one friend was pretty much drinking the entire time/visit. My Guy commented that he is worried about him, as he seems to have a drinking problem, but also Crohns, which he isn’t managing well. My little bro has it as well, diagnosed at 12, took him several years to figure his shit out, so it was shocking to see someone in their mid 20’s still struggling to come to terms with it. But I bonded with his female friend over our love of Stephen King, so that was cool 🙂 Otherwise a good visit! My Guy is meeting a few of my friends tonight rock climbing. He may meet more of them this week at an event in the city we are checking out.

My parents have only met two of the guys I have dated. I try to keep my dating life private so that they don’t need to be exposed to all the dates and men I have gone out with 😛

When I was living at home in 2015/2016 after graduating, I dated a bit and my dad got all worried about me and how many dates I was going on. Mind you it wasn’t anything too crazy, but further enforced that I don’t want them exposed to that part of my life.

My mom has asked me a few times lately if I am seeing someone. Although I am, I want to wait till it is more serious before telling her. Some of my friends know I am seeing someone, but bare bone details. My BFF is the only one who knows the most details.

I guess with all these dating updates I will provide my own! Been seeing a guy for just over a month that I met online (OKCupid). Definitely a breath of fresh air dating him as he reassures me with words and actions that he enjoys my company and wants to keep seeing me. I feel more confident with our dating than I have with past guys I have dated this year, so it makes it easier to enjoy the dating and not worry about whether it will go anywhere, as I really think there is some long term potential.

He moved to Alberta from northern Ontario 4 years ago, is a mechanical engineer, enjoys weightlifting, running, hiking, cooking and rock climbing. Has a killer bod 😉 He told me about a groupon deal for a local rock climbing center, so for almost 3 weeks we have been going once a week to climb together now that I am certified belayer. He is very silly and loves puns, I balance it out with my dirty jokes. I am moving to the city this weekend and he is helping me with the move in on the weekend by tagging along to do furniture pick up and an IKEA run. So a huge help for me! He then told me last night he has a dinner menu made up for my first night in the new place, a total surprise to me as we only discussed briefly potential meal ideas that night. He has shown many times his caring and thoughtful side, which is very admirable. I am hoping for the best! Keeping it real and taking week by week.

WEES. You NEED more time to get over the ex @ale. It is difficult to accept this, but he was a douchcanoe.

I got back with my ex a couple years ago after maybe 2 or 3 months. Nothing changed. I initiated it cause I thought I knew better, but I still loved him, missed him and we had regular contact. Huge mistake, learned from it and now understand why you need the mandatory time away, so that they can’t influence your decision. Cause it will happen. Also realized, NOTHING CHANGED. Still the same person, same issues etc. So this will be the case with your ex, despite the recent therapy. He still has a lot to work through, as do you.

My other friend is going through this at the moment. Her ex of 5 years left her for our good friend, they moved to Ireland. Then this summer he moved back to Ontario when they broke up after a 2 year relationship. So now she has to manage seeing him around her cottage as his is just next door. She was hypothetically thinking about meeting with him to avoid the awkwardness and trying to smooth things over. I advised no, why bother. After some push back, her therapist asked her to not contact him, and to learn to manage the anxiety of seeing him. She seemed to have it in her head that it would be good, and maybe they would try again. Of course it made no sense, but even after 3 years the burn is still there and hard for her to deal with it.

It takes time to heal. Do not see your ex again, fully block him. You made a lot of great first steps earlier, and it is best to continue walking away from him and moving on with your life.