Cleopatra_30
Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Ya I have no intention of trying to reschedule again. After he confirmed last night he was cancelling on me I didn’t even respond. Just leaving it. So ya not worrying about him. I have had such crummy luck lately with guys. But to be expected when I try dating using only Bumble haha I think it is time to bring out the bigger guns again aka online dating sites.
Mmm well glad I was leaning towards ditching him after this. I was really disappointed he did it again.
So the first night he cancelled I told him best of luck with the fanily stuff and to let me know when he wanted to reschedule (as he asked to reschedule). That was on the Wednesday. When I didn’t hear from him on Friday I asked if he still wanted to reschedule. Sooo ya he didn’t try right away. He apologized at the time when we were supposed to meet, but not again and didn’t initiate the rescheduling. So ya I was really patient and too lenient with him.
I have a bit of a situation with someone I am trying to go on a first date with. We were scheduled to meet last week at a bar for drinks, but he ended up cancelling last minute (like I got to the bar, texted him I had arrived and he proceeded to tell me he hasn’t left yet). Ends up he was at his folks for dinner with his sister, and his parents started an intervention with her. So only when I texted him at 7:30PM that he told me he wasn’t going to make it. At the time I was understanding as it’s family shit happens. So we eventually got in touch again and re-scheduled for today to meet at 8PM in the city. I texted him in the morning to confirm plans. He doesn’t get back to me till 4:30 to tell me it’s been a crazy day and that his boss last minute invited him and his coworkers for drinks, and he isn’t sure about tonight unless we wanted to meet really late (he suggested 10/11PM). I said no that’s too late (I have to drive 40 min into the city, and for a first “date” the time is totally unreasonable). Anyways I asked him is there any way to compromise as we have already rescheduled and I can’t imagine your boss is expecting you to drop already made plans to spend the rest of the night out with him. The kicker is that this is a new job (1 week so far) and I am slightly skewed on whether this is appropriate for him to cancel plans (again) to do drinks/dinner with the new boss? He just texted me to confirm that he is cancelling on me as he doesn’t want to ditch his boss on the first week. What do I do?! I am really leaning towards ditching this guy cause I think it is perfectly reasonable to say to your boss that you have plans for the night and that you can hang for a couple hours but then have to leave. Any advice?
@Eve my style of dating tends to gravitate towards texting in between dates, even the first and second one. I have had encounters where the guys seem fine texting once or twice during the day and throughout the week early on. As long as plans to get together are solidified and planned, to me the texting is an extra indicator that they are interested. Unfortunately my most recent experience wasn’t the same. I met him on Bumble and he usually took a day or day and a half to respond to messages. Then we texted once we got the first date sorted out and it turned to texting every other day with his response time. After the second date and 3rd week of talking throughout the week he ghosted me. I was under the impression he was interested based on our consistent communication and his apparent interest in seeing me again. Alas it was not to be. So for me that was a curve ball as I am so used to reading guys through their interest by texting me and making plans, whereas in this case those indicators meant nothing and he actually had no interest in the 3rd date it seemed. So it really varies, do what is comfortable with you and gauge the guy and how he responds.
@kare Awww I am so sorry 🙁 I am glad you had some people around you when the time came. Hope you feel better 🙂
Well had my first ghosting experience. The guy I went on a couple dates with didn’t respond to my last text. We had been messaging periodically throughout the week, and his last text was suggesting that if I hadn’t been busy this Friday he was gonna have me go with him to his friends housewarming. I reaponded with a suggestion to get together the following week for ice skating. After two days of no response, which usually takes him a day to respond, I followed up asking if he was still interested in seeing me, otherwise I would take the hint. Well he didn’t respond to that one either. Really sucks because it seemed like he was interested and came out of the left field, especially with the suggestion of going to his friends party.
I am currently using Bumble for both casual and semi-dating interest. But it really sucks. When I do match with guys and message them they never respond! I switched my phone with a male friend of mine and we swiped through one anothers accounts, wow, there are so few women who actually use it! I could swipe for days, him just 30 seconds (no lie) and then ran out of profiles. So I can see the disadvantage and lack of interest from the male side.
I did manage to go on a couple dates with a guy from bumble. However I am not really sure where it is going. He is a horrible texter, takes over a day and a half to respond, which makes making plans difficult. He has apologized for being so bad in text; but if a 3rd date ever happens I will probably confront him and tell him his communication needs to improve if he wants me to stick around.
@hfantods So I guess it is safe to say you aren’t dating that guy anymore from earlier?
You can also dress up with friends and do a photo shoot with them 😛
@Ver that is the movie with Tom Hanks who manages a female baseball team right? If so, love that movie!!
I am going to a costume party a friend and her siblings are hosting. So before I went away this week I went to Value Village and picked up my costume. I had two ideas in mind, then while searching I spotted some items that would actually come together to make me Ariel! Woot! So looking forward to wearing it tomorrow night 🙂
I think my Hot Tinder Guy is ghosting me…he was super chatty last week with me, which is kind of out of the norm, and he also expressed interest in seeing me. But then he never followed up and he kind of went off the radar all this week. I think he is supposed to be in Ontario…so not sure if that is why. Regardless I am not active on Tinder much anymore, slowly fading from that and just keeping a couple of the guys I met through there at arms reach when I need it. But if things fade out I am just gonna do my own thing, focus on my workouts and social life. Winter is coming… hehe
Mini Putt? Arcade? Board Game room? Art Gallery? Museum?
@kare, He says he doesn’t like to boast about his intelligence as he knows it makes people uncomfortable and whatnot, yet the whole time that night he was very condescending towards me and was definitely okay with boasting about. He treated me like I didn’t know anything, and also asked if I knew who Princess Di was, and Nicholas Telsa… *eye roll*
