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We’re supposed to get snow, but I don’t think it’s supposed to be as bad as it will be a little further south. If we’re expecting Snowmageddon…I am very unprepared. Ha! I have few plans this weekend, and I’m honestly pretty glad. I’m *still* trying to kick my cold and hope that a couple more days of laying low and sleeping as much as I want will do the trick.
@hfantods A lot of people have their unnecessary expenses. If you feel like manicures are something that will make you feel more put together and confident without blowing your budget or derailing your savings, go for it! I already have things I spend money on that I like but that aren’t *necessities* so manicures, for me, are an easy thing for me to say, nah, not worth it.
Has anyone tried any of the eyelash services at Benefit? I’ve been debating trying the lash lift/tint but don’t know if it’s worth it.
Also, not that it’s any of my business how you spend your money, but IMO if you’re trying to budget or build your savings, manicures are kind of a waste of money.
Love the pictures and shoes, @TheHizzy! You guys look really happy together and that’s awesome!
If I do gel manicure, every two or three weeks, depending on how it’s holding up. But in 2019, I’m not doing that unless I have an event. I’ve stopped doing regular manicures because I never fail to ruin fast, I already have nice nails, and it’s just not worth it to me. Good nails do make me feel put together, but chipping polish has the opposite effect on me.
@TheHizzy Love the photos! And your ring. Your nails look good, too! I’d be okay if you flooded us with photos. 🙂
I finally had the guts weigh myself and I am 10 lbs heavier than I was over the summer. Ho. Ly. Crap. It shouldn’t be too surprising, given how my clothes have been fitting, but it is! My trip to South Africa is six weeks away so I have a goal to be six pounds down by then. A pound a week should be do-able. I’m only a little over a week into Whole30 and have just started exercising again (damn cold is STILL lingering).
@ktfran I like SnapKitchen! Although, the one by my gym closed, so I wonder if I’m in a minority group. I was sad when it closed, though — it was so convenient! I don’t go out of my way for it, though, but I liked that they have options for all different diets and different sized portions. A friend of mine hates cooking and LOVES KitchFix.Chipotle has always had some compliant options (carnitas salad with guac and salsa), but now their fajita veggies are compliant, too. I’ve already eaten there twice in the little more than a week that I’ve been doing Whole30, and they inspired me to make my own bomb-ass taco salads at home. Apparently Five Guys is also compliant if you go bun- and cheese-free and stick to veggie toppings (though I think their mushrooms are a no-no).
You think people are judging you for dating down based on finances and career. I doubt anyone is. Decent people don’t consider it desperate to date someone whose career isn’t as high powered or who earns less. But getting back together with the guy who told you in no uncertain terms that he didn’t want to marry you or be a parent figure to your son, and trying to negotiate his feelings? That’s something that will raise eyebrows.
Yeah, each update makes this situation seem sadder and sadder.
Stop focusing on how to change your boyfriend’s mind about you and start focusing on being the best parent you can be to your son! I’m not sure what’s going on with him, but it sounds like you need the help of a professional of sorts if every day is a nonstop screaming match. And no doubt, moving you and your son in with the man who called off your wedding won’t help whatever it is that’s going on.
And you’re embarrassed of your relationship and no longer go out in public together. Why do you event want to marry this person? This doesn’t sound like a happy or fulfilling relationship at all!
And, I mean, I haven’t experienced what you’re going through. It sounds difficult and I’m sorry for that. But if your wedding was called off in April and you started living together in June, it doesn’t sound like you gave building a new life for yourself much of a shot. You need to figure out how to move out and on, even if it’s difficult. It’s going to take longer than the month you gave it.
He doesn’t want to marry you. This isn’t something you can negotiate. You’re wasting your time.
Also, why on earth would you introduce him to people as your ex-fiancee and not your boyfriend (I assume this is what he is to you now)? How odd.
Yeah, I am still congested/sniffly/fighting something off a week later. The worst symptoms were the sore throat and headache (omg the headache), both of which were gone by Sunday, thank goodness. Still not 100%, which is frustrating, but glad to no longer feel miserable.
@JD Does he have a headache and a sore throat? I guess that’s been going around. It’s what I have/had (still can’t quite shake it, but feel immensely better now that my headaches have subsided). The headache was brutal!
I had dreams about food last night, which I guess is common on Whole30. Super weird. I’m not sure if most people dream about cravings. I dreamt I ate yogurt and beer cheese, and didn’t realize until after I’d consumed them that they weren’t compliant. Not sure why those two foods. I like yogurt but don’t eat it often. I almost never eat beer cheese.
Like I spent about half of the summer in a constant state of anxiety over my idiot amateur DJ neighbor and his clown-haired girlfriend, and I’d eat and drink about it, because apparently that’s how I cope with feeling like a loser. I started seeing my boyfriend over the summer, too, and he and I can spend hours talking over food and drinks. I mean, even some of our nights in, we’ll realize we sat down to dinner four hours ago, finished our meal, but then kept drinking because we were still talking. (And it’s been great! Ha!) I never stopped exercising, but the food and drinks caught up to me. I’ve apparently inspired him to do Whole30, too, but he’s not starting until after he gets back from a weekend trip with some of his guy friends this weekend. Because beer.
