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Well. Fully vaccinated boyfriend has breakthrough COVID. He had night sweats all last night (our sheets were soaked!) and woke up with a minor cough, so he took an OTC test and it’s positive. I took one right after we saw his results and tested negative.

Oh nooo @TheLadyE! I’m sorry you haven’t been able to get the CPAP machine yet. I hope that happens for you soon!

I know of a handful of breakthrough cases. A childless cousin who thinks she got it at a low-key bar she went to with two friends (the friends are fine). And then my boss and his wife, whose kid I guess started school and there was an immediate outbreak. Boss was very spacey in a meeting on Monday even though he said he was felling better than he had during the weekend. And a friend’s SIL, who also got it from her kid who goes to daycare. I keep reading that breakthrough cases are rare (though rare in context of the size of our vaccinated population is still a lot of people) but IDK how they even make that determination… on a podcast I listened to, the woman being interviewed acknowledged that they haven’t really been keeping track of breakthrough cases. Maybe just “severe” breakthrough COVID cases are rare. So I was cautiously optimistic as we went into spring and we did let our guard down a bit, but lately have been feeling blergghhh about the direction things are going and more mindful in what we do.

My unsolicited advice is to start going through all your stuff now so you can donate/sell items you know you won’t want/need anymore before you’re in the new place. We had so many doubles of items we really only needed one of. We both donated quite a bit before moving in, but even almost a year into living together (I can’t believe it’s been a year!?), we still have a carload of donations every couple months. We’ve also had great luck selling some old furniture items online lately as we’ve upgraded some items. We just got a new dresser that’s big enough for both of us to use and our old ones (two different styles from IKEA) sold immediately on FB Marketplace. I’ve been enjoying making our place feel like ours, but man — we still have more work to do and the sheer amount of stuff we own overwhelms me from time to time. Like we’ve done so much offloading but our closets/storage still feel full to the brim.

Anyway, excited to hear how it goes for you guys! Filling a house might be different. One friend and her new husband just bought their first house. They’d previously been living in a small one-bedroom, so they’d already been through their combining phase, and now they have the opposite problem — a lot more space to fill, not a lot of furniture to fill the spaces, and backordered everything!

So like a year and a half ago, I thought to myself that if COVID primarily affected the young like it did the old, the response would’ve been very different. But now young people, including children and babies, are getting sick in much higher numbers and the response still stinks. So I guess I was wrong on that note.

I finally got a desk to WFH. And a chair, which will probably not come for a few more weeks. My company has halted its return to work planning, so I now don’t see us going back until 2022 and when we do, it’ll be hybrid. So it’s finally time to get a WFH set-up that doesn’t give me back pain or make me want to scream into the void about how frustrated I am. It’s a floating desk that folds into a hutch in the wall because the only real space we have for me to put a desk is in the bedroom. Which is not ideal. I wish I had my own home office, too. But the space saving option seems kinda cool and I’m happy I’ll finally have a dedicated space to store my work items.

@alafair I’m sorry to hear you will likely have lifelong complications but I’m happy to hear that things are looking up, both in your health and employment.

So to be fair to Robert, we don’t know that he’s choosing a weight loss coach over therapy since he has mentioned the cost of therapy was not an issue for him. Physical health is also important. My take at this point is that he doesn’t want therapy because doesn’t really think he’s part of his own problem past anything superficial no matter how much anyone tells him otherwise. I think we’re coming up on two years of Robert’s dating woes and, I mean, come on — it does NOT take two years to find a therapist you mesh with and trust, and stick with it. He thinks we’re wrong and will argue for paragraphs about why mini golf IS fun for everyone or whatever, he thinks his dates are wrong for not bending to how he is, he thinks online dating/apps are trash because he is unsuccessful on them. Since this is how he thinks, putting off or not going to therapy… well, fine. Because therapy only works if you do the work. And if you don’t actually believe there’s anything deeper going on with you, you won’t be able to do the work.