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Happy anniversary, @Rangerchic! Twenty-two years is such a long time. What is the plan for date night?
@veritek I’m glad you were able to get some of your deposit back. You’ll have to let us know how SIL reacts to the news of your pregnancy, too!
ETA: BG’s sister lives in South Carolina with her husband (a Trump supporter) and their kids. She offered to host Thanksgiving this year but I am adamantly opposed to going. Trying not to make a big stink out of it, but told BG I’d like to lay low this year and he’s ok with that. His bro and SIL were originally onboard with the trip until they saw pics of his sister and her husband on social media hanging out in a huge group with zero precautions being taken. I didn’t need to see the pics to know they’re acting like nothing’s changed. BG’s mom’s side of the family lives locally and I can see them still doing their large annual get-together this year and I don’t want to go to that either.
@hfantods We had so many duplicates! Two couches (he donated his), three beds (he donated one), two kitchen tables with chairs (I donated mine), two TV stands (he donated his). We currently have five TVs for our 2B/2B — ridiculous, I know — because the previous owner left his mounted, I had one, and BG had three. I got rid of my plates because mine didn’t match and he has a nice enough matching set. I got rid of my drinking glasses cause I no longer had a full set, and we both donated quite a few mugs (we still have a lot of them). His pots were nicer than mine, my pans were nicer — I’d actually like to upgrade some of these items in the near-ish future. Donated my crockpot because his is nicer. I have quite a few kitchen gadgets (Instant Pot, air fryer, waffle iron, immersion blender, toaster oven, baking essentials, etc.) because I like cooking — luckily he didn’t have a lot of these because he doesn’t care as much about cooking, but for two avid cooks/bakers, I can see this being an issue. He had a TON of barware and donated some, but we still have a lot. We tried to do a lot of the donations before the move and I think we did a pretty good job of it, but we still found ourselves sorting through that stuff once we got into the new place. And then we’d see whose stuff was in better shape and if there was any emotional attachment to certain items. I underestimated how long it would take to unpack and organize.
I will also add, the older I get, the more wedding registries annoy me. Now that I’ve had to go through the process of combining two households worth of stuff, they annoy me even more. My married friends have all been through this exact process before, but still asked for more stuff/to buy their upgrades for them. I’ve felt for a long time that if I ever get married, I wouldn’t register, and now I’m 1,000% sure I won’t.
@Moneypenny It’s good to start early! I started about a month out, which I actually felt silly about in the moment, but I’m so glad I did. I did a few carloads full of donations prior to moving day — things I knew we’d have duplicates of, things I haven’t reached for in years, clothes I like but never wear, etc. — and I’m also very glad I did that. BG also did his best to purge, though he ran out of time at the end. We still have a pretty sizable donation pile behind our couch at the moment and it keeps growing! Hoping to offload some of that this weekend even though that means more carrying things down the stairs.
I’ll also add that I’m a little sad we can’t have a housewarming party.
YAY! Glad you’re in and that your marriage is still in tact! 😉 Did you guys stay in the city?
It had been years since I last moved and I forgot how much work it is. BG underestimated how long it would take him to pack his kitchen and ended up staying up until like 4 a.m. the night before the move, even though he’s the one who had started the packing process first. The movers showed up to his place at 8. He was running on fumes on moving day. Both of us remark how well we sleep here even though we can hear the el (new to both of us) and I think it’s because we now work all day then spend our evenings unpacking, organizing, and/or cleaning. There have been nights where we’re both down for the count by 8.
I loved that place so much. It had floor-to-ceiling built-in bookshelves in the living room that I thought were so charming. Not huge, but a great use of space. I got excellent natural light and I loved the morning doves that woke me up early every summer morning. And it’s cheesy, but I feel like I came into my own while living there. Moved up in my career, got my dog, truly learned to love my life as a single person. I was sad to leave. I feel like none of my friends who have moved in with their partners have ever talked about mourning their single lives at all, so I did wonder if my reaction was normal. But I’m glad I had created a life/routine for myself that I was sad to leave even if what’s ahead is positive change.
Good luck on the move, @MG!
Where did you go in MI, @ktfran? My mom, sister, and I are meeting up on the western side of the state in a couple weekends and I’m excited. My mom has been having a hard time spending so much time solo, so I’m hopeful that even if the weather sucks, we’ll still have a great time.
Ha, yes! I saw him constantly for awhile a couple years ago then less and less. Last saw him sometime this summer. Pretty sure he moved out last month cause he left his couch blocking one of our alley is entrances. ? We were connected on social media for awhile after our fling and I could tell he and his girlfriend regularly broke up and got back together because of the relationship status updates. Eventually he deleted me, which is fine, and I started seeing her around in person again. I actually assume they moved in together but who really knows!
I had to come back to my apartment this evening to clean it and grab a few items still here. It’s empty now and I am sitting in a windowsill all weepy over never coming back. I’ve actually never lived anywhere longer than I have in this building. I remember moving in and feeling like I’d made it cause I had hardwood floors for the first time, a true kitchen, and a small dining room. I was so proud to be able to afford a place like this on my own. The new place is great and much nicer, but it still doesn’t feel like home. Happy for what’s ahead but man am I sad to leave.
He does! He’s so excited to be so close to Bitter Pops now. Thanks for the heads up! I almost got one for him last year but I didn’t, and can’t remember why. I’ll do it this year for sure.
Thank you! I thought unpacking would move faster, but it’s been slow. But we can walk through the living room now and have basic kitchen functionality now, so that’s a win! Since my boxes were loaded last, they were unloaded first and are in a corner of our second bedroom that’s still mostly inaccessible cause his boxes are blocking them in. Had to play some Tetris looking for some medication earlier. I’m trying to do more of the heavy lifting since he messed his back up recently and I can tell he’s not comfortable. But we’ll have most things out by this weekend, I think.
We are in! And we have such a mess. ? We’d set aside a bottle of wine for yesterday night but it took us awhile to find the bottle opener. The pizza we ordered never showed, so we had to cancel and reorder somewhere new and were pretty wine drunk by the time it arrive. It was a fun first night though. We both took the day off to unpack and I (maybe naively) think it will be fun.
The movers loaded up his stuff yesterday before loading up my place, which is on the third floor of a walk-up. I’ve really made an effort to minimize what I own in the past couple years and again the past few weeks. I thought I would for sure be the one of the two of us with more things, but the movers said BG had half a moving truck and I probably had 1/4 or less. So curious what all his stuff is because he got rid of some big items and his condo was always so clutter-free.
Oh wow! We did pop into a few furniture stores last month to sit on some couches we’d seen online and liked, get swatches, etc. We were told it normally takes about 6-8 weeks, but because of COVID we were looking at December at the earliest. So we put a pin in couch shopping. If we have to keep my IKEA couch until December, may as well get in and get of space and appropriate sizes. My dog chewed every corner of my couch as a puppy so I tried to order a new couch cover from IKEA, they’re not too expensive… but even that’s on backorder. So, dog-eaten couch for us it is! Thanks to COVID we can’t have any kind of housewarming party aside from having a few people at a time to our rooftop if we so choose, so few people will have to see my couch.
BG is closing tomorrow and we’re moving in same-day. Not sure if this is how it usually goes, but his buyer wanted a shorter closing period and our new place is unoccupied. Late last week BG learned that the lender was very delayed with something and we thought it might not happen tomorrow after all, that we’d maybe need to move his stuff into my place for a night or two and reschedule the movers, and live in super tight quarters with boxes everywhere… but everything fell back into place. Phew!
BG also hurt his back a few days ago and had to go to urgent care, some kind of nerve issue that might warrant physical therapy, but since we’re moving he keeps testing the limits of the meds he gave them to get the packing done. I’ll be happier and calmer when we’re in.
I’m glad I don’t have a garage/basement/attic because my ‘stuff’ situation would be out of control if I had more storage options! I’m in maybe 600 square feet right now and still have been feeling like the packing is endless. But luckily this means it shouldn’t be too bad to clean once everything is out. I can knock it out in a few hours this weekend and grab any odds and ends that don’t go in the moving truck.
We’ve been selling some of our stuff online, too — tables, couches, beds. The plan was originally to get a new couch but then we saw how behind furniture stores are — so for now we’ll be keeping mine for now with the hopes of ordering a new one sometime this fall and getting it 3-4 months later.
